Karma & Diamonds

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You don’t need another apology or explanation. The truth is in what they chose to keep doing, even after they saw (while pretending not to) it was breaking you. ㅤ Closure is getting this and walking away anyway. ㅤ Do you agree? ㅤ #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds #psychology #emotionalintelligence #narcissist #narcissism #relationships #breakups #trauma #closure

I respect everyone’s sexuality. Fully. Still, when someone marries a person they aren’t actually attracted to, often because they’re confused or trying to “do the right thing,” it can slowly become a painful place for the spouse. This is because he is not really there. (If you’re a man and this resonates with your experience, please replace “he” with “she”. Here are some quiet signs many women feel but struggle to put into words: 1️⃣ Kind, respectful, still emotionally absent He does the “right” things. He’s polite and helpful. Still, he doesn’t meet her emotionally. 2️⃣ She carries the relationship She plans, decides, initiates and holds the emotional load. Over time, she stops feeling like a partner and starts feeling like the one running everything. 3️⃣ Intimacy feels disconnected Though there’s touch and affection, desire is missing. She starts to sense that she’s been chosen to give him stability or maintain his image - not because he truly wants her. That can slowly erode her confidence. 4️⃣ He can’t stay steady when she’s upset When she’s anxious, he mirrors her anxiety. When she’s overwhelmed, he shuts down. She doesn’t feel supported and feels like she has to manage both him as well as herself. 5️⃣ He avoids the hard conversations Tension makes him retreat. She learns that saying how she feels creates distance so she stops speaking about her feelings. 6️⃣ She feels lonely beside him Nothing looks “wrong” on the surface. Still, something essential is missing and she knows it. If this resonated, you’re not alone. Share in the comments if you want to, or follow to stay close to this space.

Here’s why it happens: ▪️You get used to not having your own preferences When you were with someone who criticised you, dismissed you or accused you of being “too much,” it was easier not to choose. Over time, you learnt to keep things neutral so no one can judge you. ▪️It can feel safer not to get attached Some people avoid decorating because it feels like settling in. If you’ve lived with life changes happening suddenly, you might stay in a “ready to leave” mindset without even noticing it. ▪️You stop trusting your own taste If you were constantly corrected or mocked, you can start second-guessing everything. It’s not that you don’t care. It’s that choosing feels stressful rather than fun - because self-doubt underlies your choices. ▪️You’re focused on getting through the day When you’re recovering, you put your energy into functioning. Eating, sleeping, working, parenting, staying calm. Decorating can feel like something other people do and not something you have the capacity for. If you’re starting to want a home that feels warm and personal again, this can be a real sign you’re coming back to yourself. Until now, you’ve been merely coping. You are not lazy. If this is you, what’s one small thing you’d like to do first? A candle, a photo, a plant, new bedding? #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds #narcissisticabuse #traumahealing #narcissisticabuserecovery #healingfromnarcissisticabuse #healingfromtrauma

Somehow your reaction becomes the whole argument 😅 Have you ever experienced this before? ㅤ #gaslighting #narcissisticabuse #karmaanddiamonds #smitajoshi

Have you ever felt this? 😅 Let me know in the comments. cc j.swarley #soultie #betrayal #cheating #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

He doesn’t see her as a partner. He sees her as something he owns. In his mind she is there to support his image, not to be understood or valued. People rarely talk about this part … 1️⃣ “She’ll never leave me” He weakens her sense of self until she believes she cannot manage without him. He chips away at her confidence until she feels small. Reality: She can leave. The moment she chooses herself over his control is the moment his power disappears. 2️⃣ “If she walks away I’ll pull her back” He offers whatever sounds convincing in the moment. Therapy, change, affection. Anything that keeps her close. None of it is about healing but him getting what he needs from you. Protect yourself: Believe patterns not promises. Consistent behaviour is what reveals the truth. 3️⃣ “She exists to keep me feeling superior” He needs her to feel unsure and doubt herself so he can feel certain and strong. When she grows, he cuts her down. When she breaks, he feels in control. Heal by accepting: You were never the problem. You were with someone who felt threatened by your strength. 4️⃣ “No one will believe her” He prepares his audience early. He labels her unstable or dramatic so that when she speaks, people already doubt her. Protect your heart: You do not need to convince anyone who chooses his version of events. Truth reveals itself over time. 5️⃣ “I’ll keep her off balance” He shifts between cruelty and affection, guilt and comfort. The inconsistency keeps her hoping for the version of him that never stays. The way out: Clarity. Write down what you experience. When you see it in your own words the pattern becomes undeniable. 6️⃣ “She still cares so I still win” He measures control by the emotion she gives him. Pain, confusion, affection, it all feeds his ego. Heal by reclaiming your energy. You don’t need to hate him, only to stop giving him abuse you further. #marriage #narcissist #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

There's nothing more draining than being all in with someone who's keeping their options open... ㅤ I hope you know that you are more than enough and you deserve someone who chooses you every single day 💜 ㅤ #selfworth #relationships #karmaanddiamonds #smitajoshi

He may pretend he’s harmless, but his silence hides everything you need to know. He’ll dismiss it as “just looking” yet behind every glance is a betrayal. 1️⃣ He looks to feel powerful, not because he lacks your love. Each stolen glance gives him a private thrill, one he values more than the loyalty you deserve. How to heal: Be aware that his hunger for power is not a reflection on you but his weakness - then decide whether you value loyalty over his weakness. 2️⃣ He tells himself it’s harmless, even when he sees your pain. He notices when you go quiet, when your smile fades, yet convinces himself you are overreacting. Protecting his ego matters more than protecting your heart. How to heal: Trust your pain. If it feels like betrayal, that is what it is. 3️⃣ He chases novelty because commitment feels heavy. Looking elsewhere lets him feel like he still has options, even as you offer him your devotion. Fantasising is easier than living up to the love he promised you. How to heal: Remember, a man who is committed does not keep one foot outside the door. 4️⃣ He hides behind excuses to avoid accountability. “All men look.” “It’s biological.” These are shields, not truths. He knows his wandering eyes cut you open, piece by piece. How to heal: Do not let him normalise betrayal and being disloyal. Your boundaries are not negotiable. 5️⃣ He underestimates how deeply it erodes you. Every glance tells you that you are not enough and he will never admit the damage he’s done to you. How to heal: Stop questioning your worth. Faithfulness is the bare minimum. Looking at or lusting after other women while in a committed relationship is not innocent. It’s betrayal disguised as normal. Love should protect, not wound. #smitajoshi #narcissist #peoplepleaser #selfimprovement #relationships #coupleadvice

Forgiveness without changed behaviour is just a pattern. At some point you have to ask yourself whether you're forgiving them or just making peace with being treated badly … ㅤ #toxicrelationships #selfawareness #karmaanddiamonds #smitajoshi

7 signs you have a soul tie… are any of these signs sounding familiar? Let me know in the comments. #soultie #soulties #soulmate #soulmates #karmic #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

The closure you're looking for isn't going to come from them… ㅤ If someone believes you’re the villain in their story, no amount of explaining, confronting or hoping is going to change that. ㅤ The apology you need is the one you give yourself - for staying and doubting what you felt. ㅤ #healing #lettinggo #karmaanddiamonds #smitajoshi