Karma & Diamonds

If a narcissist ever spoke honestly about how he views his wife, it would destroy the illusion he hides behind. ㅤ There is nothing romantic about this. It’s entitlement, cruelty and reveals a lack of humanity. ㅤ 1️⃣ He reads her pain as proof he still has power Her tears do not move him. They reassure him. Her breakdown becomes evidence that he can still get to her. How to heal: Your emotions are human. Take his satisfaction in your pain as a warning. ㅤ 2️⃣ He believes she exists to meet his needs In his mind, her time, body and energy are there to serve his needs and should not be questioned. How to heal: A man who sees you merely as means to fulfil his needs can never love you as an equal. ㅤ 3️⃣ He sees her confidence as a threat The moment she starts glowing and growing, he becomes critical, irritated and even cruel. Her growth confronts him with his own limitations. How to heal: Your confidence is never the problem. It’s the beginning of you becoming self-sufficient. It’s the gateway to your freedom. ㅤ 4️⃣ He sees her as dispensable He fantasises about women who are easier to control. Sometimes he even tests the waters because he assumes she will stay, no matter what. How to heal: Understand that his fantasies are never an indication of yoru value and worth. They merely reflect how empty he feels inside. ㅤ 5️⃣ He assumes she will never leave He believes he has worn her down enough that she will cling to him, even when he treats her like a doormat, like she’s nothing. How to heal: The moment you choose yourself, the illusion collapses. That’s when you’ve cut the cord from giving away your power to him and from him having any power over you. ㅤ #narcissist #narcissism #narcissisticabuse #toxicrelationships #emotionalabuse #gaslighting #healingjourney #selfworth #boundaries #selflove

Some people do not want clarity. They want control. You can explain your heart a hundred times and they’ll twist it or dismiss it a hundred times. ㅤ #healingjourney #selftrust #boundaries #toxicrelationships #emotionalhealing

Children expose narcissism without ever meaning to. The way someone behaves around a child often reveals what they work hard to hide from others. ㅤ 1️⃣ He competes with the child When the child receives praise, attention or warmth, he needs it too. ㅤ 2️⃣ He uses the child as leverage ㅤ He becomes affectionate only when it provokes a reaction from you. ㅤ 3️⃣ He expects admiration from the child He sulks or withdraws when the child doesn’t put him at the centre. ㅤ 4️⃣ He performs when others are watching The attentive, playful parent in public who is distant or absent at home. ㅤ 5️⃣ He feels threatened by your bond with your child He interrupts moments of closeness or redirects attention back to himself. ㅤ 6️⃣ He shows up only for the fun parts He plays games or posts photos but avoids being emotionally available or expressing genuine care. ㅤ 7️⃣ He blames the child for his moods He blames the child for “stressing him out” but the truth is that his anger existed long before the child was born. ㅤ 8️⃣ He treats the child as if they’re an extension of himself He praises achievements or behaviour that reflect well on him rather than praising the child’s for being who the child is inherently. ㅤ A narcissist acts through a child, not *for* them. Awareness is protection. When you see it clearly, you safeguard the child’s innocence that they can’t honour. ㅤ If this resonates, you are not alone. You’re welcome to share your thoughts in the comments or follow to be here with us. ㅤ #narcissist #narcissism #parenting #toxicfamily #childhoodwounds #emotionalabuse #healingjourney #innerchild #boundaries #selfworth

Pay attention to the pattern. Are they present when you’re struggling or only when they need comfort, attention, help or access to you for something else? ㅤ You’re not here to be used and you do not need to earn anyone’s care by being useful. ㅤ #toxicrelationships #selfrespect #healingjourney #boundaries #selfworth

When his ego starts craving excitement more than loyalty, he forgets the people who loved him first. 1️⃣ His ex wife’s humanity Example: He speaks about her like she is a nuisance from his past instead of a real person who shared years of his life. How to heal: His version of you does not define you. Your truth still matters. 2️⃣ The mother of his children Example: He talks about her with disrespect as if she did not carry and raise his family. How to heal: You deserve honour for what you gave and what you endured. 3️⃣ His children’s feelings Example: He assumes the kids will just adjust to less time, less attention and a new reality. How to heal: Keep reminding them they are still worthy of love, stability and his presence in their lives. 4️⃣ The years she supported him Example: He forgets the sacrifices, the patience, the late nights and the ways she held everything together. How to heal: Do not minimise what you’ve built. It has value even if he refuses to acknowledge it. 5️⃣ Shared memories Example: He rewrites the past to justify his decisions. How to heal: You’re allowed to treasure the good moments. 6️⃣ His responsibility Example: He chases a fresh start while turning a blind eye to the harm he caused. How to heal: What he refuses to face - his shadow - follows him everywhere. Nothing for you to do about this. 7️⃣ Her worth Example: He uses someone new to feel powerful again while the message he gives you is: “You are replaceable.” How to heal: You were never dispensable. His choices reflect his character, not your worth. #divorcehealing #cheating #betrayal #coparenting #toxicrelationships #narcissist #narcissism #healingjourney #selfworth #boundaries

If you have ever watched the way someone treats children and felt a quiet discomfort, trust that instinct. Children often reveal what adults can still hide around other adults. ㅤ 1️⃣ They get irritated by normal child behaviour Sighing, eye rolling, snapping or withdrawing when a child is curious, loud, emotional or simply needs attention. ㅤ 2️⃣ They compete with children for attention Interrupting sweet moments, pulling focus back to themselves or sulking when a child is the centre of joy. ㅤ 3️⃣ They use shame instead of guidance Mocking, embarrassing or criticising a child instead of teaching them correct behaviour or how to feel secure in their environment. ㅤ 4️⃣ Their affection switches depending on who is watching Warm and loving in public then distant, cold or dismissive in private. ㅤ 5️⃣ They lack empathy for a child’s emotions Calling a child “too sensitive”, “dramatic” or “a pain” when they’re upset. ㅤ 6️⃣ They expect children to manage adult emotions A child feels responsible for keeping them calm, happy or pleased. ㅤ 7️⃣ They punish vulnerability Withholding warmth or attention when a child expresses fear, sadness or needs reassurance. ㅤ Children respond to truth, not charm. They respond to patience, empathy and an emotionally sound space. If this resonates, your awareness is protecting something precious. ㅤ #parenting #childhoodwounds #emotionalabuse #toxicfamily #narcissist #narcissism #healingjourney #innerchild #boundaries #selfworth

You were the one checking in, fixing the tension, starting the conversations and holding the relationship together. You carried the empathy, the patience and the repair. They just showed up when it suited them. Love is not meant to feel like a second job. A healthy relationship is when both people do the work, not one person carrying both of you. ㅤ #toxicrelationships #healingjourney #selfworth #relationshiptruths #selflove

If you have ever felt uneasy in your marriage but could not explain why, this is for you. ㅤ Cheating rarely begins with sex. It often begins with entitlement, weak boundaries and emotional immaturity that slowly wears down trust. ㅤ 1️⃣ He feels entitled to validation He craves admiration, flirts for reassurance or seeks attention when he feels bored, stressed or insecure. ㅤ 2️⃣ He downplays boundaries He calls you controlling for questioning messages, friendships or behaviour that clearly crosses emotional lines. ㅤ 3️⃣ He avoids accountability When you confront him about the issue, he deflects, jokes or turns it back on you instead of taking responsibility. ㅤ 4️⃣ He blames life for his choices He acts like stress, alcohol, work or relationship tension excuses the behaviour that breaks your trust. ㅤ 5️⃣ He lacks emotional intimacy He avoids vulnerability with you but seeks connection elsewhere through attention, messaging or through fantasising. ㅤ 6️⃣ He frames loyalty as restriction He talks about feeling trapped, bored and limited by commitment. ㅤ Recognising the patterns early saves unnecessary pain. Honour your intuition. Integrity, being valued and respected should not be negotiable. ㅤ If you found this helpful, share your experience below. We are stronger together. ㅤ #cheating #betrayal #relationshiptruths #marriage #boundaries #emotionalintimacy #toxicrelationships #healingjourney #selfworth #selfrespect

If you’ve ever left a conversation feeling small, embarrassed or like you suddenly can’t think straight, know that this feeling was not accidental. Undermining your value is one of the most damaging ways a narcissist gains control over your emotions. 1️⃣ What’s wrong with you? Example: Said the moment you express a need, an emotion or a boundary. It’s designed to make you feel inadequate. Healing: There’s nothing wrong with you. The real issue is someone who is incapable of being with feelings - yours as well as their own. 2️⃣ How stupid do you have to be? Example: Instead of addressing the situation, they say this after a mistake or a disagreement. It’s intended to attack your intelligence. Healing: No one is ever intelligent enough because the narcissist never makes mistakes. This is about their need to feel superior. It’s not the truth. 3️⃣ No one else would put up with you Example: Said to isolate you and create fear around leaving or speaking up. Healing: This is control through fear and belittling you. Healthy love does not rely on threats to keep you loyal. 4️⃣ You’re just too sensitive Example: Used when you name what hurt you so the focus shifts from their behaviour to your reaction. Healing: Know that being sensitive is not the problem. The problem is their lack of empathy and willingness to be accountable for their own behaviour. 5️⃣ You’re so lucky I stay with you Example: Said to position themselves as the prize while slowly eroding your self worth. Healing: Know that love is mutual. Anyone who has to make you feel smaller to feel bigger is not giving you love. These phrases are tactics. Undermining your value only works if you buy into believing it. The moment you recognise what’s going on, it will lose its grip over you. Awareness is the key. If this resonates, you are not alone. You are welcome to share your story in the comments or follow to be here with us 🤍 #narcissist #narcissism

You didn’t become cold or bitter. You became aware. You started noticing patterns. You stopped accepting excuses as effort. When someone benefits from you having low standards, your growth will always feel like a threat to them. ㅤ #healingjourney #selfworth #boundaries #toxicrelationships #selflove

If you’re reading this as a parent whose children were abandoned emotionally or physically, I want you to hear this first. What happened was never a reflection of your worth or your children’s value. It reveals things about the person who left. 1️⃣ They lack emotional empathy Example: They may understand on a surface level that abandonment causes pain but they do not feel it deeply enough to change their behaviour. Healing: Empathy is what keeps people connected to responsibility. When it’s missing, commitment becomes conditional. 2️⃣ They view people as appendages rather than individuals Example: Children are valued when they provide admiration, compliance or enhance their image. When the kids develop needs of their own, they are sidelined. Healing: Your children are not meant to perform or please. Their emotional needs are real and matter. 3️⃣ Novelty replaces parental bonds Example: A new partner brings attention, validation and excitement feels easier than the grind of parenting. Healing: This is avoidance choosing convenience. 4️⃣ They rewrite the narrative to escape guilt Example: They convince themselves and others that they were misunderstood, pushed away or left without any options. Healing: True accountability requires self reflection. Rewriting the story is a way of avoiding responsibility. 5️⃣ They prioritise their own emotional comfort Example: Parenting demands patience, regulation and sacrifice, all of which require emotional maturity they may not have developed. Healing: Being a parent who’s available to their children is about commitment, staying the course through thick and thin, even when you don’t want to. It’s got nothing to do with wants, wishes or desire. If this resonates, please know this. Children do not lose their worth because someone refused to show up for them. The failure lies with the adult who chose themselves over their responsibility. #childhoodwounds #narcissist

Missing someone is not always love. Sometimes it is attachment to the hope you had. The hope they would change, the hope they would finally choose you, the hope the good days would become the normal days. ㅤ #healingjourney #toxicrelationships #traumabond #selflove #selfworth