Karma & Diamonds

When someone’s been using you as a source of attention, they don’t feel “loss” the way you do. They feel the loss of control. That’s why they pop back up when you go quiet, move on or stop reacting. They’re trying to reopen the door, not rebuild a real connection. ㅤ #narcissisticabuse #healingjourney #boundaries #emotionalabuse

I hate cheating. I find it devastating and I wanted to understand the mindset behind it, not to justify it but to expose it. So I asked a man questions most people feel too uncomfortable to ask. I won’t share who he is, but he is a friend of a friend and I have known of him for a long time. 1. How could you cheat on the day your daughter was born? He laughed. He said he was just out “wetting the baby’s head” with friends and that one thing led to another. He told me the woman worked at a local bar, knew his wife and that it became an inside joke between them for years. 2. Did it cross your mind that your wife was recovering from birth while you were doing this? He shrugged and said she was fine. He said women are built for that sort of thing and that after the stress of the day he “deserved” a release. 3. Did you feel guilty afterwards? He said no, not really. He told me guilt is pointless and even if she ever found out it would not change anything. In his mind she could not leave because she does not work. So where would she go? 4. How did you justify keeping it secret? He said telling the truth would have caused drama and ruined his life. He said it was better to keep everyone calm and let time pass. What stayed with me was not even the act itself, it was the lack of humanity behind his words. He didn’t speak like a man who had made a terrible mistake. He spoke like someone who felt entitled to betray, lie and minimise a woman who had just brought his child into the world. This is why betrayal cuts so deep. Sometimes it’s not temptation or the act itself but the nature and character of the person it reveals. If this resonates, you are not alone. You’re welcome to share your thoughts in the comments, or follow to be here with us. #cheating #betrayal #toxicrelationships #relationshiptruths #emotionalabuse #narcissist #narcissism #healingjourney #selfworth #boundaries

If a woman carried your child, brought your baby into this world and gave her body and heart to build your family, she deserves lifelong respect. The relationship may end but the responsibility does not. 1️⃣ She is still the woman who kept your child safe before you ever held them Example: While you slept, she was soothing, carrying, growing and protecting the life you created together. How to heal: Your worth as a mother is not decided by how he treats you after the breakup. 2️⃣ She is the centre of your child’s emotional safety Example: The school forms, the appointments, the routines - she worries about even the mundane things. How to heal: Be consistent because this is what builds your child’s sense of safety. 3️⃣ She nurtures the memories he now takes for granted Example: The first steps, the long nights and the quiet milestones he might forget, these were moments she lived fully, often on her own. How to heal: Your bond with your child is proof of your strength and your value. 4️⃣ She reshapes her life to give the children stability Example: Her time, money, career and plans often revolve around keeping the children secure and grounded. How to heal: Do not minimise what you’ve gone through. It matters even when no one says thank you. 5️⃣ She’s not just an ex in your child’s story Example: Even when he moves on, she remains the one guiding, protecting and showing up every day. How to heal: Hold your boundaries. You deserve respect for being the mother. A man can move on from a relationship but he should never move on from honouring the woman who brought his children into the world. Co-parenting is a lifelong connection and being respected is part of the deal. If you found this helpful, comment and let me know. #coparenting #singlemum #divorcehealing #parenting #motherhood #healingjourney #boundaries #selfworth #relationshiptruths #emotionalhealing

Your needs were never the problem. Wanting consistency, honesty, and emotional safety is not asking for too much. The issue is when you ask someone who benefits from doing the bare minimum. ㅤ #healingjourney #selfworth #toxicrelationships #relationshiptruths #selflove

If a narcissist ever spoke honestly about how he views his wife, it would destroy the illusion he hides behind. ㅤ There is nothing romantic about this. It’s entitlement, cruelty and reveals a lack of humanity. ㅤ 1️⃣ He reads her pain as proof he still has power Her tears do not move him. They reassure him. Her breakdown becomes evidence that he can still get to her. How to heal: Your emotions are human. Take his satisfaction in your pain as a warning. ㅤ 2️⃣ He believes she exists to meet his needs In his mind, her time, body and energy are there to serve his needs and should not be questioned. How to heal: A man who sees you merely as means to fulfil his needs can never love you as an equal. ㅤ 3️⃣ He sees her confidence as a threat The moment she starts glowing and growing, he becomes critical, irritated and even cruel. Her growth confronts him with his own limitations. How to heal: Your confidence is never the problem. It’s the beginning of you becoming self-sufficient. It’s the gateway to your freedom. ㅤ 4️⃣ He sees her as dispensable He fantasises about women who are easier to control. Sometimes he even tests the waters because he assumes she will stay, no matter what. How to heal: Understand that his fantasies are never an indication of yoru value and worth. They merely reflect how empty he feels inside. ㅤ 5️⃣ He assumes she will never leave He believes he has worn her down enough that she will cling to him, even when he treats her like a doormat, like she’s nothing. How to heal: The moment you choose yourself, the illusion collapses. That’s when you’ve cut the cord from giving away your power to him and from him having any power over you. ㅤ #narcissist #narcissism #narcissisticabuse #toxicrelationships #emotionalabuse #gaslighting #healingjourney #selfworth #boundaries #selflove

Some people do not want clarity. They want control. You can explain your heart a hundred times and they’ll twist it or dismiss it a hundred times. ㅤ #healingjourney #selftrust #boundaries #toxicrelationships #emotionalhealing

Children expose narcissism without ever meaning to. The way someone behaves around a child often reveals what they work hard to hide from others. ㅤ 1️⃣ He competes with the child When the child receives praise, attention or warmth, he needs it too. ㅤ 2️⃣ He uses the child as leverage ㅤ He becomes affectionate only when it provokes a reaction from you. ㅤ 3️⃣ He expects admiration from the child He sulks or withdraws when the child doesn’t put him at the centre. ㅤ 4️⃣ He performs when others are watching The attentive, playful parent in public who is distant or absent at home. ㅤ 5️⃣ He feels threatened by your bond with your child He interrupts moments of closeness or redirects attention back to himself. ㅤ 6️⃣ He shows up only for the fun parts He plays games or posts photos but avoids being emotionally available or expressing genuine care. ㅤ 7️⃣ He blames the child for his moods He blames the child for “stressing him out” but the truth is that his anger existed long before the child was born. ㅤ 8️⃣ He treats the child as if they’re an extension of himself He praises achievements or behaviour that reflect well on him rather than praising the child’s for being who the child is inherently. ㅤ A narcissist acts through a child, not *for* them. Awareness is protection. When you see it clearly, you safeguard the child’s innocence that they can’t honour. ㅤ If this resonates, you are not alone. You’re welcome to share your thoughts in the comments or follow to be here with us. ㅤ #narcissist #narcissism #parenting #toxicfamily #childhoodwounds #emotionalabuse #healingjourney #innerchild #boundaries #selfworth

Pay attention to the pattern. Are they present when you’re struggling or only when they need comfort, attention, help or access to you for something else? ㅤ You’re not here to be used and you do not need to earn anyone’s care by being useful. ㅤ #toxicrelationships #selfrespect #healingjourney #boundaries #selfworth

When his ego starts craving excitement more than loyalty, he forgets the people who loved him first. 1️⃣ His ex wife’s humanity Example: He speaks about her like she is a nuisance from his past instead of a real person who shared years of his life. How to heal: His version of you does not define you. Your truth still matters. 2️⃣ The mother of his children Example: He talks about her with disrespect as if she did not carry and raise his family. How to heal: You deserve honour for what you gave and what you endured. 3️⃣ His children’s feelings Example: He assumes the kids will just adjust to less time, less attention and a new reality. How to heal: Keep reminding them they are still worthy of love, stability and his presence in their lives. 4️⃣ The years she supported him Example: He forgets the sacrifices, the patience, the late nights and the ways she held everything together. How to heal: Do not minimise what you’ve built. It has value even if he refuses to acknowledge it. 5️⃣ Shared memories Example: He rewrites the past to justify his decisions. How to heal: You’re allowed to treasure the good moments. 6️⃣ His responsibility Example: He chases a fresh start while turning a blind eye to the harm he caused. How to heal: What he refuses to face - his shadow - follows him everywhere. Nothing for you to do about this. 7️⃣ Her worth Example: He uses someone new to feel powerful again while the message he gives you is: “You are replaceable.” How to heal: You were never dispensable. His choices reflect his character, not your worth. #divorcehealing #cheating #betrayal #coparenting #toxicrelationships #narcissist #narcissism #healingjourney #selfworth #boundaries

If you have ever watched the way someone treats children and felt a quiet discomfort, trust that instinct. Children often reveal what adults can still hide around other adults. ㅤ 1️⃣ They get irritated by normal child behaviour Sighing, eye rolling, snapping or withdrawing when a child is curious, loud, emotional or simply needs attention. ㅤ 2️⃣ They compete with children for attention Interrupting sweet moments, pulling focus back to themselves or sulking when a child is the centre of joy. ㅤ 3️⃣ They use shame instead of guidance Mocking, embarrassing or criticising a child instead of teaching them correct behaviour or how to feel secure in their environment. ㅤ 4️⃣ Their affection switches depending on who is watching Warm and loving in public then distant, cold or dismissive in private. ㅤ 5️⃣ They lack empathy for a child’s emotions Calling a child “too sensitive”, “dramatic” or “a pain” when they’re upset. ㅤ 6️⃣ They expect children to manage adult emotions A child feels responsible for keeping them calm, happy or pleased. ㅤ 7️⃣ They punish vulnerability Withholding warmth or attention when a child expresses fear, sadness or needs reassurance. ㅤ Children respond to truth, not charm. They respond to patience, empathy and an emotionally sound space. If this resonates, your awareness is protecting something precious. ㅤ #parenting #childhoodwounds #emotionalabuse #toxicfamily #narcissist #narcissism #healingjourney #innerchild #boundaries #selfworth

You were the one checking in, fixing the tension, starting the conversations and holding the relationship together. You carried the empathy, the patience and the repair. They just showed up when it suited them. Love is not meant to feel like a second job. A healthy relationship is when both people do the work, not one person carrying both of you. ㅤ #toxicrelationships #healingjourney #selfworth #relationshiptruths #selflove

If you have ever felt uneasy in your marriage but could not explain why, this is for you. ㅤ Cheating rarely begins with sex. It often begins with entitlement, weak boundaries and emotional immaturity that slowly wears down trust. ㅤ 1️⃣ He feels entitled to validation He craves admiration, flirts for reassurance or seeks attention when he feels bored, stressed or insecure. ㅤ 2️⃣ He downplays boundaries He calls you controlling for questioning messages, friendships or behaviour that clearly crosses emotional lines. ㅤ 3️⃣ He avoids accountability When you confront him about the issue, he deflects, jokes or turns it back on you instead of taking responsibility. ㅤ 4️⃣ He blames life for his choices He acts like stress, alcohol, work or relationship tension excuses the behaviour that breaks your trust. ㅤ 5️⃣ He lacks emotional intimacy He avoids vulnerability with you but seeks connection elsewhere through attention, messaging or through fantasising. ㅤ 6️⃣ He frames loyalty as restriction He talks about feeling trapped, bored and limited by commitment. ㅤ Recognising the patterns early saves unnecessary pain. Honour your intuition. Integrity, being valued and respected should not be negotiable. ㅤ If you found this helpful, share your experience below. We are stronger together. ㅤ #cheating #betrayal #relationshiptruths #marriage #boundaries #emotionalintimacy #toxicrelationships #healingjourney #selfworth #selfrespect