Karma & Diamonds

This is one of the most confusing dynamics a wife can live inside because you can feel the tension even when nothing has actually been said. Here are 5 signs your husband resents you (and what's really going on): 👇🏼 1️⃣ After a disagreement he goes cold, pulls back affection or speaks to you like you're a stranger and it doesn't stop until you apologise or bend yourself backwards to keep the peace. 2️⃣ You ask for support or reassurance and somehow you end up being called needy, dramatic or too much - instead of just … giving you what you need. 3️⃣ He doesn’t appreciate all that you do. Everything you do all day is treated like it's just expected (but anything he does is somehow exceptional). 4️⃣ Every conversation about his behaviour becomes about yours - your tone, your reaction, your "attitude". YOU are suddenly the issue and he never has to look at himself. 5️⃣ He checks out emotionally but still expects your full loyalty. He’s less present, less connected and less invested but the minute you ask about why he’s being distant, there's a problem. His resentment is rarely about something you did wrong. It usually shows up when you start growing, when you stop over-giving or when you finally start showing up expansively. Does this sound like your relationship? #narcissist #marriageproblems #toxicrelationship #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

Have you ever been told you're "too emotional" or “too sensitive”? ㅤ This is your reminder that your sensitivity isn't a weakness, it's a strength. 💜 ㅤ #gaslighting #emotionalintelligence #smitajoshi108 #karmaanddiamonds

What kids are trying to tell you about their past lives… #reincarnation #pastlife #karmaandreincarnation #children #philosophy #yogainspiration #soulfood #karmaanddiamonds #smitajoshi

Grieving a toxic relationship is confusing because it seems like you're mourning who they were but actually, you’re mourning who you kept hoping they'd become. ㅤ The work now is learning to see people for who they actually show up as, not their potential. ㅤ #healingjourney #lettinggo #karmaanddiamonds #smitajoshi

When a narcissist mother runs the family, the family bends around her and everyone in it pays the price. Here are 5 things that happen when a family is under a narcissist mother's control 👇🏼 1️⃣ Children become roles - one is the golden child, one is the scapegoat, one is invisible. You're given a function. 2️⃣ The father is not present. Whether he's dominated or controlled by her, checked out or given up in life - either way, he can't protect you. 3️⃣ Siblings are turned against each other. You were taught to compete for her approval, which means you were taught to see each other as threats rather than allies. 4️⃣ Reality becomes whatever she says it is. Your memories are "wrong," your feelings are "crazy" and her version of events is the only one that’s right. 5️⃣ The whole family protects her image. They keep secrets, make excuses and the dysfunction stays hidden because that's what everyone learned to do to survive. Does this sound like a family you know? Tell me in the comments. #narcissisticmother #narcissist #childhoodwounds #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

One minute they’re shattered - can't sleep, can't eat, questioning everything - and the next minute they're acting like nothing happened. Here are the 7 things narcissists do after a breakup that healthy people never will 👇🏼 1️⃣ They replace you immediately because they can't sit alone with themselves. Healthy people feel the pain. Narcissists run from it. 2️⃣ They act like it meant nothing. No grief, no processing - because it was never really love to them, it was control. And losing you means losing that. 3️⃣ They rewrite the story so you become the problem. Suddenly you were "crazy," "too much," "unstable." Healthy people take accountability for their part. Narcissists just change the script. 4️⃣ They show off a new partner online but it's all fake - they only do it to hurt you, confuse you and make you doubt yourself. 5️⃣ They watch you from a distance i.e. checking your stories, asking mutual friends about you, hovering without ever actually reaching out. They don't miss you … they miss the energy they took from you. 6️⃣ They randomly reach out with a soft message, a memory, a "thinking of you" out of nowhere. That's bait. 7️⃣ They never fully leave. One foot is always in the door. A healthy person lets go… a narcissist always returns. If you're still feeling pulled towards someone who hurt you, that's not weakness - it’s a trauma bond (and it's more common than you think). Does this sound like you? Tell me in the comments 💌 #narcissist #traumabond #karmaanddiamonds #smitajoshi

Why you're so self-aware but still so stuck 👇🏼 Let’s see if this sounds like you… You're highly aware of: 🐻 Your shadows and what you need to work on 🐻 How critical and judgmental you are towards yourself 🐻 How you play small and hold yourself back And yet, knowing all of this has done very little to actually change anything. You've tried: 🦖 "Just loving yourself" 🦖 Cutting out the toxic people 🦖 Yoga, breathwork, cold plunges 🦖 Reading every book you're supposed to read But you're still stuck in the same patterns… still making yourself small, tearing yourself apart and letting people walk all over your boundaries. Basically, you still feel like your life doesn't match what you know it could be. You're not practising loving awareness - you're practising shameful awareness. And the thing is, you're so used to it that you're doing it even on your healing journey. Even right now, reading this, notice if you're judging yourself for not having caught this sooner. That's it. That's the pattern. More information won't fix this - shameful awareness actually feeds off information and uses it to keep you stuck. The only way through is to step outside of it entirely… into a place where you can see even the shame and meet it with warmth instead of more judgment. Where you can gently smile at all the parts of you that are just trying to keep you safe. Does this sound like you? Tell me in the comments 💌 #selfawareness #healingjourney #selfacceptance #bekindtoyou #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

When a narcissist cheats, the betrayal doesn't stop at the act itself… that's only where it starts. Because what follows isn't guilt, it's self-preservation - and once you know what to look for, you can't unsee it. 1️⃣ They start accusing YOU of cheating Out of nowhere, your loyalty is under question. Your phone, your whereabouts, your friendships are all suspect. This is projection. 2️⃣ Their secrecy goes to another level Their phone is always face down, they have new passwords and are suddenly obsessed with "privacy." When someone has nothing to hide, they don't hide… 3️⃣ They rewrite the story of your relationship "We weren't in a good place." "You were pulling away." "It meant nothing." None of that is accountability. That's just someone building a case to justify what they did. 4️⃣ They turn the charm up (and it feels off) They start giving you gifts, they’re more intense and give you a lot more affection (it feels like they’re trying too hard). 5️⃣ They make you feel unstable for needing reassurance You ask a calm, reasonable question and somehow you end up being called insecure, dramatic, obsessive - a person who genuinely regrets hurting you doesn't punish you for struggling to trust them. Do any of these signs sound familiar? Let me know your experience in the comments. #narcissist #cheater #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

Healthy relationships allow room for disagreement without punishment. ㅤ They make space for individuality and different perspectives to exist at the same time. ㅤ When they withdraw their warmth, affection or approval as soon as you express an opinion different to theirs, it shows that the relationship has only existed because you were willing to behave in ways that suited their needs. Often at the cost of your own self-respect or wishes. ㅤ If you’re “valued” only when you feed their agenda and narrative, this can never be intimacy. It can never lead to a genuine, healthy relationship. When you’re “accepted” with conditions attached, it chips away at your sense of self, piece by piece. The cost of such a relationship, for you, is huge. ㅤ #toxicrelationships

Do you agree? #karma #lifelessons #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds #selfdiscoveryjourney

When someone is inconsistent, emotionally unavailable or dismissive, it creates instability in your relationship with them. Over time, your nervous system responds to that instability with questions and emotion. It has you wanting reassurance. ㅤ When you ask for reassurance or to be treated with more maturity, people can label you’re being “too much,” when in reality it’s a reasonable reaction when you don’t get clarity, when they expect much from you but refuse to invest effort in you or, simply, care about your needs. People become intense for good reason. It’s a reaction to tolerating scarcity of emotional connection and nurturing for far too long. ㅤ #closure #goodenough #relationships

Many people don’t realise the anger they feel today may have started as sadness years ago… When hurt isn’t acknowledged or processed, it hardens. What once felt like grief, rejection or feeling unseen can slowly turn into frustration, resentment or rage. A lot of anger is built on moments where you felt unheard, unsupported or left alone with your pain. Healing begins when you stop asking “Why am I so angry?” and start asking “What’s still hurting that I have not yet allowed myself to fully feel? #traumahealing #anger #emotionalhealth #cptsd #innerwork #selfawareness #healingjourney