Karma & Diamonds

Have you ever felt this? 😅 Let me know in the comments. cc j.swarley #soultie #betrayal #cheating #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

He doesn’t see her as a partner. He sees her as something he owns. In his mind she is there to support his image, not to be understood or valued. People rarely talk about this part … 1️⃣ “She’ll never leave me” He weakens her sense of self until she believes she cannot manage without him. He chips away at her confidence until she feels small. Reality: She can leave. The moment she chooses herself over his control is the moment his power disappears. 2️⃣ “If she walks away I’ll pull her back” He offers whatever sounds convincing in the moment. Therapy, change, affection. Anything that keeps her close. None of it is about healing but him getting what he needs from you. Protect yourself: Believe patterns not promises. Consistent behaviour is what reveals the truth. 3️⃣ “She exists to keep me feeling superior” He needs her to feel unsure and doubt herself so he can feel certain and strong. When she grows, he cuts her down. When she breaks, he feels in control. Heal by accepting: You were never the problem. You were with someone who felt threatened by your strength. 4️⃣ “No one will believe her” He prepares his audience early. He labels her unstable or dramatic so that when she speaks, people already doubt her. Protect your heart: You do not need to convince anyone who chooses his version of events. Truth reveals itself over time. 5️⃣ “I’ll keep her off balance” He shifts between cruelty and affection, guilt and comfort. The inconsistency keeps her hoping for the version of him that never stays. The way out: Clarity. Write down what you experience. When you see it in your own words the pattern becomes undeniable. 6️⃣ “She still cares so I still win” He measures control by the emotion she gives him. Pain, confusion, affection, it all feeds his ego. Heal by reclaiming your energy. You don’t need to hate him, only to stop giving him abuse you further. #marriage #narcissist #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

There's nothing more draining than being all in with someone who's keeping their options open... ㅤ I hope you know that you are more than enough and you deserve someone who chooses you every single day 💜 ㅤ #selfworth #relationships #karmaanddiamonds #smitajoshi

He may pretend he’s harmless, but his silence hides everything you need to know. He’ll dismiss it as “just looking” yet behind every glance is a betrayal. 1️⃣ He looks to feel powerful, not because he lacks your love. Each stolen glance gives him a private thrill, one he values more than the loyalty you deserve. How to heal: Be aware that his hunger for power is not a reflection on you but his weakness - then decide whether you value loyalty over his weakness. 2️⃣ He tells himself it’s harmless, even when he sees your pain. He notices when you go quiet, when your smile fades, yet convinces himself you are overreacting. Protecting his ego matters more than protecting your heart. How to heal: Trust your pain. If it feels like betrayal, that is what it is. 3️⃣ He chases novelty because commitment feels heavy. Looking elsewhere lets him feel like he still has options, even as you offer him your devotion. Fantasising is easier than living up to the love he promised you. How to heal: Remember, a man who is committed does not keep one foot outside the door. 4️⃣ He hides behind excuses to avoid accountability. “All men look.” “It’s biological.” These are shields, not truths. He knows his wandering eyes cut you open, piece by piece. How to heal: Do not let him normalise betrayal and being disloyal. Your boundaries are not negotiable. 5️⃣ He underestimates how deeply it erodes you. Every glance tells you that you are not enough and he will never admit the damage he’s done to you. How to heal: Stop questioning your worth. Faithfulness is the bare minimum. Looking at or lusting after other women while in a committed relationship is not innocent. It’s betrayal disguised as normal. Love should protect, not wound. #smitajoshi #narcissist #peoplepleaser #selfimprovement #relationships #coupleadvice

Forgiveness without changed behaviour is just a pattern. At some point you have to ask yourself whether you're forgiving them or just making peace with being treated badly … ㅤ #toxicrelationships #selfawareness #karmaanddiamonds #smitajoshi

7 signs you have a soul tie… are any of these signs sounding familiar? Let me know in the comments. #soultie #soulties #soulmate #soulmates #karmic #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

The closure you're looking for isn't going to come from them… ㅤ If someone believes you’re the villain in their story, no amount of explaining, confronting or hoping is going to change that. ㅤ The apology you need is the one you give yourself - for staying and doubting what you felt. ㅤ #healing #lettinggo #karmaanddiamonds #smitajoshi

Good luck! You’re gonna need it 😉 #karma #intuition #spirituality #divineintervention #divinelyguided #spiritualprotection #karmaanddiamonds #smitajoshi

Ladies, some advice ... loving a man like this is not enough to help him heal 💔 Have you experienced this? Tell me your story in the comments. #loveisnotenough #narcissisticabuse #narcissist #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

Have you ever had to let go of someone you loved because you knew they weren’t good for you? Let me know in the comments. ㅤ #personaldevelopment #boundaries #karmaanddiamonds #smitajoshi

Four things I’d never do with a narcissist again.. #narcissisticabuse #healingjourney #abuserecovery #toxicrelationships #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

6 reasons you aren't able to truly be yourself 👇🏼 1️⃣ Fear of judgement. You're so worried about what other people think that you change yourself before you've even said anything. 2️⃣ Past criticism. Someone said something once and it stuck - and now their voice lives in your head rent free, making you second-guess everything. 3️⃣ Low self-esteem. When you don't feel good enough on the inside, it's really hard to show up as yourself on the outside. 4️⃣ You don't really know yourself yet. That's normal, most people don't - but you can't express something you haven't taken the time to understand. 5️⃣ Perfectionism. You'd rather say nothing than say the wrong thing, so you wait until everything feels just right … and it never does. 6️⃣ Comparing yourself to other people. You're measuring your life against the life people post online and wondering why you don't match up. Remember, people don’t post their bad days online. The thing is, none of this means something is wrong with you. It’s simply that you've been shaped by experiences that taught you it wasn't safe to be yourself. And that’s what you’d benefit by transforming. Does any of this sound like you? Tell me in the comments 💜 #selfawareness #personaldevelopment #selfworth #trustyourself #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds