Karma & Diamonds

Even if it’s subtle, it's always there... #soulmates #relationships #truelove #soulmatelove #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

Understanding their behaviour can give you clarity but healing also needs you to turn your attention back to yourself. ㅤ What made you ignore certain boundaries, excuse repeated behaviour or stay when you knew something wasn't right? ㅤ #narcissisticabuse #healing #relationships #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

Everyone else remembers how much fun he was. You remember the car ride home. ㅤ When drinking becomes part of an unhealthy or abusive pattern, you can spend the whole evening watching his mood while everyone else enjoys themselves. ㅤ These behaviours can sometimes appear in men with narcissistic traits. They don't establish a diagnosis, but they shouldn't be ignored. ㅤ 1️⃣ He makes you the punchline. He shares something private or embarrassing about you, then tells you that you "can't take a joke" when you're upset. ㅤ 2️⃣ He becomes possessive of your attention. You have an innocent conversation with someone else and later find yourself having to explain or defend it. ㅤ 3️⃣ He gets angry when you set a boundary. You say you're tired or don't want another drink and suddenly you're being called boring or controlling. ㅤ 4️⃣ He uses things you've told him against you. Something you shared with him during a vulnerable moment later becomes ammunition in an argument. ㅤ 5️⃣ He blames you for the way he behaves. "I wouldn't get like this if you didn't wind me up." ㅤ 6️⃣ He pressures you for affection or sex. He expects intimacy after upsetting or humiliating you, then becomes angry when you don't want it. ㅤ 7️⃣ He expects the morning to erase what happened. "I was drunk. I don't remember. Why are you still talking about it?" ㅤ Alcohol doesn't excuse abusive behaviour. An apology means very little if the same behaviour continues. ㅤ Accountability is recognising the harm caused and making consistent changes so it doesn't keep happening. You deserve to enjoy an evening without wondering which version of your husband you'll be going home with... ㅤ #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

One thing a narcissist will often do in an argument is ask this: “Okay, give me one example of when I did that.” And suddenly your mind goes blank. You know the pattern. You know how it felt. You know it has happened before. Yet in that moment you can’t think of one clear example. That doesn’t mean you’re lying. It doesn’t mean you imagined it. It also doesn’t mean it did not happen. This is a tactic designed to take power away from you. They drag you into a courtroom you never agreed to. They demand perfect details while you’re already emotionally activated. Your nervous system is in fight or flight mode. When that happens the part of your brain that retrieves memories does not work in the same way. They know this, of course. By forcing you to produce one perfect example, they shift the focus away from the pattern and onto you. The second you hesitate, they use it as proof that you’re just exaggerating, being dramatic or unstable. The harm isn’t in their questions. The harm is in their putting you on the spot. You're put under pressure to provide evidence while you’re overwhelmed, worn down and already doubting yourself from their constant denial and invalidation. That’s why later, when you’re calm, the examples come flooding back, when your mind finally feels safe enough to access them. If you struggle to recall details in the heat of an argument with someone who constantly denies your reality, to not see this as a flaw in you. See this as good information because it shines a light on how unsafe the dynamic between you and them really is. #narcissist #narcissism #smitajoshi

They want you doubting yourself, because a confident version of you might walk away. So they chip at your confidence until you’re too busy proving your value to realise they’re draining it. ㅤ If you relate... ㅤ Remember to get my best seller 'KARMA & DIAMONDS' where I dive into this on a deeper level 💎 ㅤ #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds #psychology #emotionalintelligence #narcissist #narcissism #relationships #breakups #trauma

One minute they’re shattered - can't sleep, can't eat, questioning everything - and the next minute they're acting like nothing happened. ㅤ Here are the 7 things narcissists do after a breakup that healthy people don't 👇🏼 ㅤ 1️⃣ They replace you immediately because they can't be alone with themselves. Healthy people feel the pain. Narcissists run from it. ㅤ 2️⃣ They act like it meant nothing. No grief, no processing - because it was never really love to them, it was control. And losing you means losing that. ㅤ 3️⃣ They rewrite the story so you become the problem. Suddenly you were "crazy," "too much," "unstable." Healthy people take accountability for their part. Narcissists just change the script. ㅤ 4️⃣ They show off a new partner online but it's all fake - they only do it to hurt you, confuse you and make you doubt yourself. ㅤ 5️⃣ They watch you from a distance i.e. checking your stories, asking mutual friends about you, hovering without ever actually reaching out. They don't miss you … they miss the energy they took from you. ㅤ 6️⃣ They randomly reach out with a soft message, a memory, a "thinking of you" out of nowhere. That's bait. ㅤ 7️⃣ They never fully leave. One foot is always in the door. A healthy person lets go and moves on … a narcissist tries to return. ㅤ If you're still feeling pulled towards someone who hurt you, that's not weakness - it’s a trauma bond (and it's more common than you think). ㅤ Does this sound like you? Tell me in the comments 💌 ㅤ #narcissist #traumabond #karmaanddiamonds #smitajoshi

This is not about judging anyone’s sexuality. Being gay is not the problem. ㅤ The real pain begins when a woman gives her whole heart to a marriage, only to discover later that her partner was never capable of loving her in the way she needed. ㅤ These signs are not to blame, they exist to help you recognise patterns early and protect yourself from years of confusion and self-doubt. ㅤ 1️⃣ He avoids real intimacy He’s beside you but never with you. Physical closeness feels distant, almost mechanical. His body is there but his soul is somewhere else. You feel the rejection long before you ever understand it. ㅤ 2️⃣ His emotional world belongs to other men, not you Friendships are healthy but when every emotional need is met elsewhere, you become invisible. You’re the partner in name but not in connection. ㅤ 3️⃣ He shows no instinct to protect you when other men notice you Instead of care or presence, he shows you indifference. His detachment feels strange, almost hollow, like something vital is missing. ㅤ 4️⃣ His attraction toward women feels rehearsed The compliments, the affection, even intimacy can feel like performance. It’s not desire, it’s obligation… like he’s playing a role he never truly wanted. ㅤ 5️⃣ There’s always a quiet distance No matter how much love you give, he never fully lets you in. It’s like living beside someone who keeps the door locked to their true self. ㅤ None of this makes him a bad person. But it’s heartbreaking to pour your love, loyalty and years into a marriage where you were never truly chosen. ㅤ Recognizing these signs early brings clarity. It helps you understand that you were never unworthy, the connection was simply never aligned. ㅤ Do you experience any of these signs? ㅤ #marriage #marriageadvice

The universe has a way of stepping in when someone doesn’t hold you with the love and care you deserve ... ㅤ It will remove you from their grasp and guide you toward a space where you’ll be truly seen, valued, and cherished. ㅤ Trust that you are meant to be held with kindness and respect. ㅤ Always remember—you are worthy of love that nurtures your soul ✨ ㅤ If you relate - ㅤ Click the link in the bio for my best seller 'KARMA & DIAMONDS' where I dive into this on a deeper level 💎 ㅤ #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds #smitajoshimeditations #journeyofselfdiscovery #inspirationalquotes #healingjourney #mindfulliving #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #sutras #mantra #reincarnation #selflove #meditation #yoga #intuition

One thing a narcissist will often do in an argument is ask this: ㅤ “Okay, give me one example of when I did that.” ㅤ And suddenly your mind goes blank. ㅤ You know the pattern. You know how it felt. You know it has happened before. ㅤ Yet in that moment you can’t think of one clear example. ㅤ That doesn’t mean you’re lying. It doesn’t mean you imagined it. It also doesn’t mean it did not happen. ㅤ This is a tactic designed to take power away from you. ㅤ They drag you into a courtroom you never agreed to. They demand perfect details while you’re already emotionally activated. Your nervous system is in fight or flight mode. When that happens the part of your brain that retrieves memories does not work in the same way. ㅤ They know this, of course. ㅤ By forcing you to produce one perfect example, they shift the focus away from the pattern and onto you. The second you hesitate, they use it as proof that you’re just exaggerating, being dramatic or unstable. ㅤ The harm isn’t in their questions. The harm is in their putting you on the spot. ㅤ You're put under pressure to provide evidence while you’re overwhelmed, worn down and already doubting yourself from their constant denial and invalidation. ㅤ That’s why later, when you’re calm, the examples come flooding back, when your mind finally feels safe enough to access them. ㅤ If you struggle to recall details in the heat of an argument with someone who constantly denies your reality, to not see this as a flaw in you. See this as good information because it shines a light on how unsafe the dynamic between you and them really is. ㅤ #narcissist #narcissism #smitajoshi

Is your third eye slightly open? 👁️ ㅤ If you relate... ㅤ Remember to get my best seller 'KARMA & DIAMONDS' where I dive into this on a deeper level 💎 ㅤ #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds #smitajoshimeditations #journeyofselfdiscovery #inspirationalquotes #healingjourney #thirdeye #spiritualtiktok #spiritual

Boundaries aren’t walls meant to keep people out, they’re tools that reveal who respects you and who sees your limits as inconveniences. ㅤ Every time someone honours your ‘no’, they prove they value you enough to treat you as an equal. ㅤ #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds #psychology #emotionalintelligence #narcissist #narcissism #relationships #breakups #trauma

He may pretend he’s harmless, but his silence hides everything you need to know. He’ll dismiss it as “just looking” yet behind every glance is a silent betrayal. ㅤ 1️⃣ He looks to feel powerful, not because he lacks your love. Each stolen glance gives him a private thrill, one he values more than the loyalty you deserve. How to heal: His hunger for power is his weakness, not your reflection. ㅤ 2️⃣ He tells himself it’s harmless, even when he sees your pain. He notices when you go quiet, when your smile fades, yet convinces himself you are overreacting. Protecting his ego matters more than protecting your heart. How to heal: Trust your pain. If it feels like betrayal, that is what it is. ㅤ 3️⃣ He chases novelty because commitment feels heavy. Looking elsewhere lets him feel like he still has options, while you're giving him devotion. Fantasising is easier than living up to the love he promised you. How to heal: Remember, a man who is committed does not keep one foot outside the door. ㅤ 4️⃣ He hides behind excuses to avoid accountability. “All men look.” “It’s biological.” These are shields, not truths. He knows his wandering eyes cut you open, piece by piece. How to heal: Do not let him normalise betrayal. Your boundaries are not negotiable. ㅤ 5️⃣ He underestimates how deeply it erodes you. Every glance tells you that you are not enough, and he will never admit the damage he caused. How to heal: Stop questioning your worth. Faithfulness is the bare minimum. ㅤ Looking at other women while in a committed relationship is not innocent. It is betrayal disguised as normal. Love should protect, not wound. ㅤ #smitajoshi #narcissist #peoplepleaser #selfimprovement #relationships #coupleadvice