Karma & Diamonds

He may pretend he’s harmless, but his silence hides everything you need to know. He’ll dismiss it as “just looking” yet behind every glance is a quiet betrayal. ㅤ 1️⃣ He looks to feel powerful, not because he lacks your love. Each stolen glance gives him a private thrill, one he values more than the loyalty you deserve. How to heal: His hunger for power is his weakness, not your reflection. ㅤ 2️⃣ He tells himself it’s harmless, even when he sees your pain. He notices when you go quiet, when your smile fades, yet convinces himself you are overreacting. Protecting his ego matters more than protecting your heart. How to heal: Trust your pain. If it feels like betrayal, that is what it is. 3️⃣ He chases novelty because commitment feels heavy. Looking elsewhere lets him feel like he still has options, while you give him devotion. Fantasising is easier than living up to the love he promised you. How to heal: Remember, a man who is committed does not keep one foot outside the door. ㅤ 4️⃣ He hides behind excuses to avoid accountability. “All men look.” “It’s biological.” These are shields, not truths. He knows his wandering eyes cut you open, piece by piece. How to heal: Do not let him normalise betrayal. Your boundaries are not negotiable. ㅤ 5️⃣ He underestimates how deeply it erodes you. Every glance tells you that you are not enough, and he will never admit the damage he caused. How to heal: Stop questioning your worth. Faithfulness is the bare minimum. ㅤ Looking at other women while in a committed relationship is not innocent. It is betrayal disguised as normal. Love should protect, not wound. #smitajoshi #narcissist #peoplepleaser #selfimprovement #relationships #coupleadvice

When someone punishes your honesty, you start editing what you say to them. You try to find the “right” words, the perfect timing, the softer tone but it still doesn’t make a difference. Here’s why: the problem isn’t how you’re communicating. It’s that they don’t want to be challenged by you. #communication #relationshiphealing #emotionallyimmature #boundaries

This is not about judging anyone’s sexuality. Being gay is not the problem. The real pain begins when a woman gives her whole heart to a marriage, only to discover later that her partner was never capable of loving her in the way she needed. These signs are not for blame, they exist to help you recognise patterns early and protect yourself from years of confusion and self-doubt. 1️⃣ He avoids real intimacy He’s beside you but never with you. Physical closeness feels distant, almost mechanical. His body is there but his soul is somewhere else. You feel the rejection long before you ever understand it. 2️⃣ His emotional world belongs to other men, not you Friendships are healthy but when every emotional need is met elsewhere, you become invisible. You’re the partner in name but not in connection. 3️⃣ He shows no instinct to protect when other men notice you Instead of care or presence, you’re met with indifference. His detachment feels strange, almost hollow, like something vital is missing. 4️⃣ His attraction toward women feels rehearsed The compliments, the affection, even intimacy can feel like performance. It’s not desire, it’s obligation… like he’s playing a role he never truly wanted. 5️⃣ There’s always a quiet distance No matter how much love you give, he never fully lets you in. It’s like living beside someone who keeps the door locked to their true self. None of this makes him a bad person. But it’s heartbreaking to pour your love, loyalty and years into a marriage where you were never truly chosen. Recognizing these signs early brings clarity. It helps you understand that you were never unworthy, the connection was simply never aligned. Do you experience any of these signs? #marriage #marriageadvice

Do you have a soul tie with someone? Breaking a soul tie is ultimately about letting go for the highest good of all concerned, honouring yourself and the other person and deepening your relationship with your own wiser self. Here are 4 ways to help you break one 🤍 #relationshiptips #relationshipadvice #relationshipcoach #datingtips #datingadvice #relationshipproblems #soulties

Calm confrontation removes their favourite weapon - your emotional reaction. When you stay steady, they often switch tactics fast. They deny, deflect, attack your tone or suddenly collapse into “how could you do this to me.” It’s a way to deflect taking responsibility and regain control. ㅤ #narcissisticabuse #manipulation #gaslighting #selfprotection

One thing a narcissist will often do in an argument is ask this: “Okay, give me one example of when I did that.” And suddenly your mind goes blank. You know the pattern. You know how it felt. You know it has happened before. Yet in that moment you can’t pull up one clear example on demand. That doesn’t mean you’re lying. It doesn’t mean you imagined it. It also doesn’t mean it did not happen. This is a tactic designed to take power away from you. They drag you into a courtroom you never agreed to enter. They demand perfect details while you’re already emotionally activated. Your nervous system is in fight or flight mode. When that happens the part of your brain that retrieves memories does not work in the same way. They know this, of course. By forcing you to produce one perfect example, they shift the focus away from the pattern and onto you. The second you hesitate, they use it as proof that you’re just exaggerating, being dramatic or unstable. The harm isn’t in the question. The harm is in their putting you on the spot. You are pressured to provide evidence while you’re overwhelmed, worn down and already doubting yourself from their constant denial and invalidation. That’s why later, when you’re calm, the examples come flooding back, when your mind finally feels safe enough to access them. If you struggle to recall details in the heat of an argument with someone who constantly denies your reality, to not see this as a flaw in you. This is good information because it shines a light on how unsafe the dynamic between you and them really is. #narcissist #narcissism

He doesn’t see her as a partner. He sees her as something he owns. In his mind she is there to support his image not to be understood or valued. People rarely talk about this part… 1️⃣ “She’ll never leave me” He weakens her sense of self until she believes she cannot manage without him. He chips away at her confidence until she feels small. Reality: She can leave. The moment she chooses herself over his control is the moment his power disappears. 2️⃣ “If she walks away I’ll pull her back” He offers whatever sounds convincing in the moment. Therapy, change, affection, anything that keeps her close. None of it is about healing. It is about access. Protect yourself: Believe patterns not promises. Consistency is what reveals truth. 3️⃣ “She exists to keep me feeling superior” He needs her to be unsure and doubting so he can feel certain and strong. When she grows, he cuts her down. When she breaks, he feels in control. Heal by remembering: You were never the problem. You were with someone who felt threatened by your strength. 4️⃣ “No one will believe her” He prepares his audience early. He labels her unstable or dramatic so that when she speaks people doubt her first. Protect your heart: You do not need to convince anyone who chooses his version of events. Truth reveals itself with time. 5️⃣ “I’ll keep her off balance” He shifts between cruelty and affection, guilt and comfort. The inconsistency keeps her hoping for the version of him that never stays. The way out: Clarity. Write down what you experience. When you see it in your own words the pattern becomes undeniable. 6️⃣ “She still cares so I still win” He measures control by the emotion she gives him. Pain, confusion, affection, it all feeds his ego. Heal by reclaiming your energy. You do not need to hate him. You only need to stop giving him access to the parts of you he misused. #marriage #narcissist

When the truth gets close, they’ll often create a distraction. They change the topic, attack your character, bring up your past or claim you’ve hurt their feelings. They might even create a smear campaign against you. It’s not about resolving the issue, it’s about stopping the truth from coming out and damaging their image. ㅤ #gaslighting #narcissisticabuse #accountability #emotionalabuse

Sensitivity isn’t a weakness, it’s your super power 🤍 #sensitive #sensitivity

Constantly being ignored, corrected or talked over makes anyone question themselves. If you’re told you’re overreacting every time you bring up a real issue, you start scanning yourself instead of the situation. This makes you feel insecure and that’s a normal response to being constantly treated dismissively. ㅤ #gaslighting #selftrust #relationshiphealing #traumarecovery

Here’s why it happens: ▪️You get used to not having preferences When you were with someone who criticised you, dismissed you or accused you of being “too much,” it was easier not to choose. Over time, you learn to keep things neutral so no one can judge you. ▪️It can feel safer not to get attached Some people avoid decorating because it feels like settling in. If you’ve lived with life changes happening suddenly, you might stay in a “ready to leave” mindset without even noticing it. ▪️You stop trusting your own taste If you were constantly corrected or mocked, you can start second-guessing everything. It’s not that you don’t care. It’s that choosing feels stressful rather than fun. ▪️You’re focused on getting through the day When you’re recovering, you put your energy into functioning. Eating, sleeping, working, parenting, staying calm. Decorating can feel like something other people do and not something you have the capacity for. If you’re starting to want a home that feels warm and personal again, this can be a real sign you’re coming back to yourself. You were coping - not lazy or behind. If this is you, what’s one small thing you’d like to do first? A candle, a photo, a plant, new bedding? #narcissisticabuse #traumahealing #narcissisticabuserecovery #healingfromnarcissisticabuse #healingfromtrauma

The turning point is when you stop waiting for permission to be treated well. Choosing yourself doesn’t require a dramatic exit. It can look like reducing how often you’re in contact, saying no without explaining, or leaving the conversation when it turns disrespectful. You get to decide what your life feels like. ㅤ #boundaries #selfrespect #healing #emotionalwellbeing