Karma & Diamonds

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He may pretend he’s harmless, but his silence hides everything you need to know. He’ll dismiss it as “just looking”, yet behind every glance is an erosion of his loyalty to you. 1️⃣ He looks to feel powerful, not because he lacks your love. Each stolen glance gives him a private thrill, one he values more than the loyalty you deserve. How to heal: His hunger for power is not reflection on you but his weakness. 2️⃣ He tells himself it’s harmless, even when he sees your pain. He notices when you go quiet or when your smile fades, yet convinces himself you are being a drama queen. This is because protecting his ego matters more than taking care of your heart. How to heal: Trust your pain. If it feels like betrayal, that is what it is. 3️⃣ He chases novelty because commitment feels heavy. Looking elsewhere lets him feel like he still has options. Even as you give him your devotion, he is fantasising about other women. This is because it’s much easier than living up to the love he promised you. How to heal: Remember, a man who is committed to you doesn’t keep one foot outside the door. 4️⃣ He hides behind excuses to avoid accountability. “All men look.” “It’s biological.” These are shields, not truths. He well knows his wandering eye cuts you open, piece by piece. How to heal: Don’t let him normalise betrayal. Your boundaries are not negotiable. 5️⃣ He underestimates how deeply it erodes you. His every glance at other women tells you that you are not enough and he will never admit the damage he’s caused to you. How to heal: Stop questioning your worth. Faithfulness must be your bare minimum requirement. Consistently checking out other women while in a committed relationship with you is not innocent. It’s betrayal disguised as normal. Love protects, nurtures and nourishes, not wound. #smitajoshi #narcissist #peoplepleaser #selfimprovement #relationships #coupleadvice

When a man has an emotionally enmeshed bond with his mother, his partner often feels like she is competing for space that should never have been shared. If this feels familiar, you are not imagining it. 1️⃣ His mother feels like the primary woman in his life He turns to her for comfort, reassurance and emotional closeness in ways that usually belong in a romantic relationship. How to protect yourself: Remind yourself this dynamic existed long before you. You did not create it and you cannot resolve it on your own. 2️⃣ Your needs come after hers Your feelings are minimised, yet the moment his mother is upset he rushes to soothe her. How to protect yourself: Do not measure your worth by his responses. His behaviour reflects years of conditioning, not your worth. 3️⃣ Your private moments are no longer private Things shared between you end up being shared with her, giving her influence over decisions that belong to the two of you. How to protect yourself: You are allowed to set boundaries around privacy. Your relationship deserves its own space. 4️⃣ She competes for emotional control He compares, questions or criticises your choices based on her preferences. How to protect yourself: Stay grounded in your truth. Her behaviour comes from fear of losing control rather than something you might be doing wrong. 5️⃣ He views her emotions more carefully than yours He feels deep guilt when she is unhappy, yet becomes defensive when you express real hurt. How to protect yourself: Recognise that your emotions still matter and that you deserve a partner who prioritises your emotional safety. If you feel like you’re fighting for emotional space in your own relationship, you are not alone. Men raised in this dynamic often struggle to separate emotionally from their mothers. You stepped into a pattern that was already there. Your worth has never been the issue. Have you ever experienced this before? #mommyissues #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

If a woman carried your child, brought your baby into this world and gave her body and heart to build your family, she deserves lifelong respect. The relationship may end but the responsibility does not. 1️⃣ She is still the woman who kept your child safe before you ever held them Example: While you slept, she was soothing, carrying, growing and protecting the life you created together. How to heal: Your worth as a mother is not decided by how he treats you after the breakup. 2️⃣ She is the centre of your child’s emotional safety Example: The school forms, the appointments, the routines - she worries about even the mundane things. How to heal: Be consistent because this is what builds your child’s sense of safety. 3️⃣ She nurtures the memories he now takes for granted Example: The first steps, the long nights and the quiet milestones he might forget, these were moments she lived fully, often on her own. How to heal: Your bond with your child is proof of your strength and your value. 4️⃣ She reshapes her life to give the children stability Example: Her time, money, career and plans often revolve around keeping the children secure and grounded. How to heal: Do not minimise what you’ve gone through. It matters even when no one says thank you. 5️⃣ She’s not just an ex in your child’s story Example: Even when he moves on, she remains the one guiding, protecting and showing up every day. How to heal: Hold your boundaries. You deserve respect for being the mother. A man can move on from a relationship but he should never move on from honouring the woman who brought his children into the world. Co-parenting is a lifelong connection and being respected is part of the deal. If you found this helpful, comment and let me know. #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds #coparenting #singlemum #divorcehealing #parenting #motherhood #healingjourney #boundaries #selfworth #relationshiptruths #emotionalhealing

This is the push and pull that creates trauma bonds. They give you crumbs so you stay hopeful, then withdraw the moment you need more. ㅤ Healing begins when you stop accepting proximity as proof of love. ㅤ #toxicrelationships #traumabond #healingjourney #narcissist #selfworth #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

When his ego starts craving excitement more than loyalty, he forgets the people who loved him first. 1️⃣ His ex-wife’s humanity Example: He speaks about her like she is a nuisance from his past instead of a real person who shared years of his life. How to heal: His version of you does not define you. Your truth still matters. 2️⃣ The mother of his children Example: He talks about her with disrespect as if she did not carry and raise his family. How to heal: You deserve honour for what you gave and what you endured. 3️⃣ His children’s feelings Example: He assumes the kids will just adjust to less time, less attention and a new reality. How to heal: Keep reminding them they are still worthy of love, stability and his presence in their lives. 4️⃣ The years she supported him Example: He forgets the sacrifices, the patience, the late nights and the ways she held everything together. How to heal: Do not minimise what you’ve built. It has value even if he refuses to acknowledge it. 5️⃣ Shared memories Example: He rewrites the past to justify his decisions. How to heal: You’re allowed to treasure the good moments. 6️⃣ His responsibility Example: He chases a fresh start while turning a blind eye to the harm he caused. How to heal: What he refuses to face - his shadow - follows him everywhere. Nothing for you to do about this. 7️⃣ Her worth Example: He uses someone new to feel powerful again while the message he gives you is: “You are replaceable.” How to heal: You were never dispensable. His choices reflect his character, not your worth. #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds #divorcehealing #cheating #betrayal #coparenting #toxicrelationships #narcissist #narcissism #healingjourney #selfworth #boundaries

I hate cheating but I wanted to hear what it sounds like from the person doing it, not to justify it but to understand the mindset behind it. So I asked him these questions: 1️⃣ Did you feel guilty? He said not in a way that mattered. He described guilt like a passing feeling that came and went. It never stayed long enough to make him stop. 2️⃣ What was it like being intimate with your wife while the affair was going on? He said it felt normal. Routine. Easy. He said he learnt to split his life into separate boxes so he could move between them without giving much thought to what it meant. 3️⃣ Did you ever consider telling the truth? He said the truth felt riskier than the betrayal. He was more frightened of losing his creature comforts than having integrity. 4️⃣ What excuses did you use to cover it up? Long days. Late meetings. Stress. Being tired. Needing space. Then turning it back on her so that she would doubt herself, making her feel like she must be just overthinking it when she sensed something was off. What stayed with me was not rage. It was how casual he was about it. He didn’t sound like someone who’d made a terrible mistake. He sounded like someone who believed he deserved both worlds. That’s one of the reasons why betrayal cuts so deep. So often it’s not one bad decision. It’s a pattern repeated until this sort of behaviour becomes normal. Have you ever been in this situation? And if you’re a man who has ever done this, or been at the receiving end of this, I’d love to hear your perspective in the comments too. #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds #marriageadvice #narcissist #narcissism #cheating #affair

Growing up means realising that boundaries are clarity, not cruelty. You cannot change people but you can choose distance, peace and self-respect. Healing is the moment you stop giving unlimited access to people who drain you. ㅤ #boundaries #healingjourney #selfworth #toxicrelationships #innerstrength #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

Children expose narcissism without ever meaning to. The way someone behaves around a child often reveals what they work hard to hide from others. ㅤ 1️⃣ He competes with the child When the child receives praise, attention or warmth, he needs it too. 2️⃣ He uses the child as leverage He becomes affectionate only when it provokes a reaction from you. 3️⃣ He expects admiration from the child He sulks or withdraws when the child doesn’t put him at the centre. 4️⃣ He performs when others are watching The attentive, playful parent in public who is distant or absent at home. 5️⃣ He feels threatened by your bond with your child He interrupts moments of closeness or redirects attention back to himself. 6️⃣ He shows up only for the fun parts He plays games or posts photos but avoids being emotionally available or expressing genuine care. 7️⃣ He blames the child for his moods He blames the child for “stressing him out” but the truth is that his anger existed long before the child was born. 8️⃣ He treats the child as if they’re an extension of himself He praises achievements or behaviour that reflect well on him rather than praising the child’s for being who the child is inherently. A narcissist acts through a child, not *for* them. Awareness is protection. When you see it clearly, you safeguard the child’s innocence that they can’t honour. If this resonates, you are not alone. You’re welcome to share your thoughts in the comments or follow to be here with us. #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds #narcissist #narcissism #parenting #toxicfamily #childhoodwounds #emotionalabuse #healingjourney #innerchild #boundaries #selfworth

Accountability feels like defeat to them, so they twist the narrative until they look innocent and you look unreasonable. If you think this is love, you’d be wrong. Because this is how the ego protects itself. The moment you stop arguing with their version of reality is the moment you take your power back. ㅤ #narcissist #gaslighting #narcissisticabuse #healingjourney #selfworth #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

One thing a narcissist will often do in an argument is ask this: “Okay, give me one example of when I did that.” And suddenly your mind goes blank. You know the pattern. You know how it felt. You know it has happened before. Yet in that moment you can’t pull up one clear example on demand. That doesn’t mean you’re lying. It doesn’t mean you imagined it. It also doesn’t mean it did not happen. This is a tactic designed to take power away from you. They drag you into a courtroom you never agreed to enter. They demand perfect details while you’re already emotionally activated. Your nervous system is in fight or flight mode. When that happens the part of your brain that retrieves memories does not work in the same way. They know this, of course. By forcing you to produce one perfect example, they shift the focus away from their behaviour pattern and onto you. The second you hesitate, they use it as proof that you’re just exaggerating, being dramatic or unstable. The harm isn’t in the question. The harm is in their putting you on the spot. You are pressured to provide evidence while you’re overwhelmed, worn down and already doubting yourself from their constant denial and invalidation. That’s why later, when you’re calm, the examples come flooding back, when your mind finally feels safe enough to access them. If you struggle to recall details in the heat of an argument with someone who constantly denies your reality, to not see this as a flaw in you. This is good information because it shines a light on how unsafe the dynamic between you and them really is. #narcissist #narcissism #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

They will cry, blame, attack because accountability feels like a threat to their identity. Rather than working to fix the issue, they make an immense effort to protect their image. Once you understand that, you stop expecting honesty from someone who cannot give it. ㅤ #narcissist #narcissisticabuse #toxicrelationships #traumabond #healingjourney #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds