Karma & Diamonds

Most people assume narcissistic traits calm down with age but in reality, the 50s can be one of the worst periods of a narcissist… Ageing brings loss of control, loss of attention and loss of status. If someone has built their identity around superiority or admiration, this transition can feel threatening to that person. 1️⃣ They become more critical as they age As their appearance, career or influence changes, their insecurity increases. Instead of dealing with it internally, they project it outward. They pick at your looks, figure, energy or how you’re ageing while still expecting commitment and loyalty from you. 2️⃣ They tighten control when life moves on Children grow up and leave. Careers plateau. The spotlight naturally moves. Rather than adjusting, they double down their control at home. More rules. More monitoring. More criticism. If you dare to express independence, you’re labelled as disrespectful. 3️⃣ They rewrite history to protect themselves Their past failures become noble sacrifices. They minimise or deny their hurtful behaviour. If you bring something up for discussion, they say you’re remembering it wrong or exaggerating. 4️⃣ They expect devotion without giving it They want to be cared for, admired and emotionally supported. Yet they struggle to offer empathy or constancy in return. 5️⃣ They react badly to your growth If you become more confident, set boundaries or start focusing on your own life, their response is often cold, sarcastic or they dish out punishment. Remember, getting older doesn’t automatically mean wisdom. Without self reflection and taking responsibility for one’s impact on others, reparative patterns merely become more entrenched. Have you experienced any of these signs before? #narcissisticabuse #relationshippatterns #emotionalabuse #healingjourney #smitajoshi

Do you believe in reincarnation? Let me know in the comments. #reincarnation #astralbody #physicalbody #sanatandharma #reincarnate #astraltravel #karmaandreincarnation #karmaanddiamonds #smitajoshi

Many people hold on because they believe one final conversation will bring clarity or relief. They imagine that if the other person would just acknowledge the harm they’ve caused you, everything would finally make sense. That said, so many times you’ve already explained yourself clearly and calmly … but to no avail. They’ve continued to behave just as before. ㅤ Closure, in those cases, is not about getting an apology. It’s about accepting that they’ve been aware of the impact they've had on you and still choose not to change. It’s painful for get - accept - this dynamic but it’s also what allows you to stop waiting for them to treat you better. ㅤ #closure

Have you ever noticed this? You're calm all day. Grounded. Fine. Then you get off the phone with your parents and suddenly you're tense, irritated or furious. For a long time, you might’ve told yourself you're too reactive. That you should be more mature by now. When we speak to our parents we don’t always respond as the adults we are today. Very often we respond from the part of us that grew up with them. Your body remembers the tone, pauses, criticism. The pressure to behave a certain way. The feeling of not being fully heard. Even if years have passed those early experiences are still entrenched in your memory. So even if today you’re independent, self aware and capable, you can slip into an a playing old role because the relationship was formed when felly far less powerful. Don't see this as weakness. Rather, it's conditioning. Self-awareness is the first step. Catch yourself in the act when you slip into playing the role of the younger you. Then pause. Breathe. Come back to the empowered adult you are now and respond from there. That's the beginning of real freedom. #karma #lifelessons #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds #selfdiscoveryjourney

Some men lose interest when a woman stops centering her whole world around them … but what they don’t realise is that this is her way of becoming more of who she is. ㅤ Here’s how this change can show up: ㅤ 1️⃣ When she stops shrinking to keep the peace In the beginning she adjusts, dilutes her opinions and prioritises his moods above her own. When she starts speaking more openly, setting limits or saying no, men don’t know how to handle this shift in her. They might say that they preferred her when she was easier to “manage”. ㅤ 2️⃣ When she stops putting her life on hold For a long time she may have paused her plans, delayed her goals or shaped her schedule around his ambitions. It felt like she was supporting the relationship. When she starts questioning why her dreams always come second and begins investing in her own future, the dynamic shifts. Where he once felt comfortable with her, he now feels threatened. ㅤ 3️⃣ When she no longer sees herself as just a role She was the partner who held everything together. She was his emotional support, the steady one. The one who made it all work. When she starts wanting more than that for herself, more recognition, more depth, more reciprocity, the man pulls back. ㅤ 4️⃣ When she stops normalising acts of disrespect She no longer laughs off dismissive comments. She doesn’t ignore being talked over or emotionally sidelined. She starts expecting him to an effort for her and being attentive when he’s with her. If he counted on her tolerating his self-centred ways, he might experience the shift in her attitude as rejection rather than growth. ㅤ 5️⃣ When she realises love should not cost her peace She begins to notice how exhausted she is. How much of herself she has edited or suppressed. As she reconnects with who she is and what she needs, he finds the imbalance hard to ignore. When she grows, he loses interest because he preferred the version of her who revolved around him. ㅤ The right partner grows with you. The wrong one resents your growth. ㅤ #relationshipdynamics #selfrespect #boundaries #smitajoshi

When people show you who they truly are, it’s important we believe them at the earliest. Healing will only start when we stop making excuses for them, even if a part of us still misses who we thought they were. ㅤ #healingjourney #selfworth #boundaries #emotionalhealth

This is your reminder that your lowest moments are not the end of your story. Rock bottom often strips away who you thought you had to be. It forces you to be honest with yourself, change and shows you what you must no longer tolerate. What feels like breaking is necessary for rebuilding. You are not finished. You are transforming into a truer version of yourself. #selflove #healingjourney #growth #trusttheprocess #smitajoshi

If you feel anxious before you see them and drained after you speak to them, it’s a sign. ㅤ One that you should not ignore. ㅤ Your body often notices recurring patterns of incongruent behaviour and when you are being invalidated or manipulated, way before your mind can fully name it. You don’t need to justify that feeling to take it seriously. ㅤ #intuition #selftrust #emotionalabuse #healing

Growing up with a narcissistic mother often means everyone’s actions revolves around her moods. ➤ She places herself at the centre of everything. Plans, holidays and visits are arranged around her availability and emotional state. People learn to check how she’s feeling before making decisions. ➤ She creates tension between siblings. Small comparisons and side comments make brothers and sisters compete for approval. ➤ She assigns roles. One child is the “good one,” another is “difficult.” Once someone is labelled the problem, they’re blamed no matter what happens. ➤ She tells different versions of the same story. Each person hears something slightly different, which creates confusion and keeps her in control of what they end up believing. ➤ She redirects attention back to herself. If someone else has good news or needs support, she suddenly has a crisis, feels unwell or becomes overwhelmed. ➤ She controls information. She decides who knows what and when. This keeps her as the gatekeeper - the centre - everyone has to go through. ➤ She openly favours loyalty. The child or relative who agrees with her is rewarded. Everyone else is criticised or punished by being excluded. ➤ She presents a polished image to outsiders. If you speak honestly about what happens at home, she’ll call you a liar or ungrateful. Or you’ll just have to suffer her wrath. ➤ She keeps old issues alive. Past mistakes are brought up so no conflict is ever fully resolved. ➤ She uses guilt about “family duty.” She frames boundaries as betrayal and wanting space as disrespect. If this feels familiar, you’re not imagining the pattern. Growing up in this dynamic shapes how you see yourself and relationships later on. #narcissisticmother #familydynamics #healingjourney #narcawareness

A healthy relationship makes room for your feelings, needs and let you be yourself. You shouldn’t have to become quieter, easier or superhuman just to keep someone in the relationship with you. ㅤ #healthyrelationships #boundaries #selfrespect #relationshiphealing

Soul tie 👇 Signs you may still feel emotionally tied to someone: - You struggle to move forward, even when you know the relationship is over - You still dream about them regularly - Strong emotions come up when you think of them - like grief, anger, resentment or longing - You keep “randomly” running into them or finding reminders of them - You feel mentally or emotionally pulled back to them, even without long periods of contact When you’ve shared something intense with someone - whether that person is your a partner, parent, friend or ex - the bond doesn’t disappear just because the relationship ends. You can block someone, say goodbye or physically move on and still feel connected on an energetic and emotional level. If the relationship was controlling, unstable or painful, the attachment can keep you stuck in patterns long after the person is gone. It feels like you might just be missing them but it’s more likely that you’re still emotionally trapped in the trauma of that relationship. That’s when it’s important to look at what’s keeping the tie alive, whether it’s really serving you anymore and more importantly, how you can bring closure to it. Have you experienced this before? Let me know in the comments. #soultie #attachment

Most narcissistic people can look powerful for a while - they might control the room, the relationship or even the whole family. Over time, that way of living usually leads to isolation … ➤ They often end up surrounded by people who either rely on them entirely or are ultra careful around them. Few people feel truly relaxed with them and that makes it difficult to achieve real closeness with them. ➤ As their children grow up, the distance tends to grow too. ➤ Over time they lose partners and friends who expect mutual respect. The ones who stay and accept their behaviour without challenging it wither shrink into themselves or suffer ill health. ➤ They keep repeating the same arguments and tell the same stories about how everyone else is the source of the problems. Being unwilling to engage in self reflection, nothing actually changes in there behaviour. ➤ They might keep the house, the money or the image and still feel alone in their closest relationships. Such a person can have status but still not have any meaningful relationships or intimacy. ➤ When health issues show up, accepting help would mean admitting vulnerability. Given that they see everyone as the enemy, they find it hard to receive support. ➤ Sometimes they get left out of weddings, birthdays or holidays because people want to avoid the problems that come with have these people around. ➤ Within the family, they are the example of who not to be like, rather than someone others are inspired by. ➤ As the years pass chances to repair things get smaller. ➤ Later in life, they experience loneliness. This is not so much because people don’t care about them, but because they betrayed the trust of those people who were once their friends and cheerleaders. #smitajoshi #narcissisticabuse #familydynamics #healingjourney #boundaries