Karma & Diamonds

Children expose narcissism without ever meaning to. The way someone behaves around a child often reveals what they work hard to hide from others. ㅤ 1️⃣ He competes with the child When the child receives praise, attention or warmth, he needs it too. ㅤ 2️⃣ He uses the child as leverage He becomes affectionate only when it provokes a reaction from you. ㅤ 3️⃣ He expects admiration from the child He sulks or withdraws when the child doesn’t put him at the centre. ㅤ 4️⃣ He performs at his best when others are watching The attentive, playful parent in public who is distant or absent at home. ㅤ 5️⃣ He feels threatened by your bond with your child He interrupts moments of closeness or redirects attention back to himself. ㅤ 6️⃣ He shows up only for the fun parts He plays games or posts photos but avoids being emotionally available or expressing genuine care. ㅤ 7️⃣ He blames the child for his moods He blames the child for “stressing him out” but the truth is that his anger’s existed long before the child was born. ㅤ 8️⃣ He treats the child as if they’re an extension of himself He praises achievements or behaviour that reflect well on him rather than validating and praising the child. ㅤ A narcissist uses the child as a medium to modulate. Awareness is protection. When you can recognise this behaviour, you can safeguard the child’s innocence. ㅤ If this resonates, you are not alone. You’re welcome to share your thoughts in the comments or join us on this self-discovery journey. ㅤ #narcissist #narcissism #parenting #toxicfamily #childhoodwounds #emotionalabuse #healingjourney #innerchild #boundaries #selfworth

He doesn’t see her as his partner. He sees her as something he owns. In his mind, she’s there to support his image. She’s not someone to be understood or valued. People rarely talk about this part… ㅤ 1️⃣ “She’ll never leave me” ㅤ He weakens her sense of self until she believes she can’t manage without him. He chips away at her confidence until she feels insignificant. ㅤ Reality: She can leave. The moment she chooses herself over his manipulation is the moment his power disappears. ㅤ 2️⃣ “If she walks away, I’ll pull her back” ㅤ He offers whatever sounds convincing in the moment. Therapy, change, affection, anything that keeps her close. None of it is about healing. It is about access. ㅤ Protect yourself: Believe the patterns, not the promises. Consistency of behaviour reveals truth. ㅤ 3️⃣ “She exists to keep me feeling superior” ㅤ He needs her to be unsure and doubting herself so he can feel strong. When she grows, he cuts her down. When she breaks, he feels in control. ㅤ Heal by remembering: You are not the problem. You’ve been with someone who felt threatened by your strength. ㅤ 4️⃣ “No one will believe her” ㅤ He prepares his audience early. He labels her unstable or dramatic so that when she speaks, people are already listening through a filter that doubts her, regardless. ㅤ Protect your heart: You don’t need to convince anyone who chooses his version of events. Be patient. Truth reveals itself with time. ㅤ 5️⃣ “I’ll keep her off balance” ㅤ He shifts between cruelty and affection, guilt and comfort. The inconsistency keeps her hoping for the version of him she wants, but that vanishes just as quickly as it shows up. ㅤ The way out: Clarity. Write down what you experience. When you see it in your own words the pattern becomes undeniable. ㅤ 6️⃣ “She still cares so I still win” ㅤ He measures his ability to control you by the amount of emotion he receives from her. Pain, confusion, affection— it all feeds his ego. ㅤ Heal by reclaiming your energy and power to choose. Hating him won’t make the difference but not granting him further opportunities to mistreat you will. ㅤ #marriage #narcissist

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One thing a narcissist will often do in an argument is ask: ㅤ “Okay, give me one example of when I did that.” ㅤ And suddenly your mind goes blank. ㅤ You know the pattern. ㅤ You know how it felt. ㅤ You know it’s happened before. ㅤ Yet in that moment, you can’t pull up one clear example. ㅤ That doesn’t mean you’re lying. ㅤ It doesn’t mean you imagined it. ㅤ It also doesn’t mean it didn’t happen. ㅤ This is merely a tactic designed to take power away from you. ㅤ They drag you into a courtroom you never agreed to enter. They demand perfect details while you’re already emotionally activated. Your nervous system is in fight or flight mode. ㅤ The reason you’re scrambling for answers is because the part of your brain that retrieves memories doesn’t work in the same way as it usually does. ㅤ They know this, of course. ㅤ By forcing you to produce one perfect example, they shift the focus away from their behaviour pattern and onto you. ㅤ The second you hesitate, they use it as proof that you’re exaggerating, being dramatic or unstable. ㅤ The harm isn’t in the question. ㅤ The harm is in their putting you on the spot. ㅤ It’s in pressuring you to provide evidence while you’re overwhelmed, worn down and already doubting yourself from their constant denial and invalidation. ㅤ That’s why later, when you’re calm and your mind finally feels safe enough to access your memory, the examples come flooding back. ㅤ If you struggle to recall details in the heat of an argument with someone who constantly denies your reality, don’t see this as a flaw in you. ㅤ See it as good information that’s shining a light on how unsafe the dynamic between you two really is. ㅤ #narcissist #narcissism

This is not about judging anyone’s sexuality. Being gay is not the problem. ㅤ The real pain begins when a woman gives her whole heart to a marriage, only to discover later that her partner was never capable of loving her in the way she needed. ㅤ These signs are not to blame anyone but to help you recognise patterns early and protect yourself from years of confusion and self-doubt. ㅤ 1️⃣ He avoids real intimacy ㅤ He’s beside you but never with you. Physical closeness feels distant, almost mechanical. His body is there but his soul is somewhere else. You feel the rejection long before you ever understand it. ㅤ 2️⃣ His emotional world belongs to other men, not you ㅤ Friendships are healthy but when every emotional need is met elsewhere, you become invisible. You’re the partner in name but not in connection. ㅤ 3️⃣ He shows no instinct to protect you when other men notice you ㅤ He’s indifferent, much less caring or protective. His detachment feels strange—hollow—like something vital is missing. ㅤ 4️⃣ His attraction toward women feels rehearsed ㅤ The compliments, affection, even the intimacy can feel like performance. Rather than desire, it’s a sense of obligation that;s drives his relationship with you, much like he’s playing a role he never truly wanted. ㅤ 5️⃣ You feel his emotional distance ㅤ No matter how much love you give, he never fully lets you in. It’s like living with someone who keeps the door locked to their true self. ㅤ None of this makes him a bad person. But it’s heartbreaking to pour your love, loyalty and years into a marriage where you have never truly been chosen. ㅤ Recognising these signs early brings clarity. It helps you understand that you are not unworthy, but that the two of you are misaligned. ㅤ Do you experience any of these signs? ㅤ #marriage #marriageadvice #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

I hope you’re always surrounded by people who let you express yourself to your heart’s content. 💜 ㅤ #love #relationships #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

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You don’t have control over how someone acts towards you. ㅤ You do have choice , however, over what you do and do not accept. 💜 ㅤ #selfrespect #toxicrelationships #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

Constantly needing to clean, tidy or declutter is not always about liking order. For many, it is a survival response born from pain. ㅤ 1️⃣ Control in the midst of chaos. Growing up in an unstable or abusive home, the only thing you could control was your environment. Cleaning became your way to create safety. ㅤ 2️⃣ Coping with anxiety. When emotions feel overwhelming, scrubbing or organising becomes the outlet. The spotless room is not just clean, it is your nervous system trying to calm itself. ㅤ 3️⃣ Fear of judgement. If you were criticised as a child for mistakes, keeping everything perfect became a way to avoid shame. ㅤ 4️⃣ Numbing pain through productivity. During heartbreak or abuse, the house sparkles because it is easier to mop the floor than to face the ache in your chest. ㅤ 5️⃣ Decluttering as reclaiming power. After trauma, getting rid of belongings can feel like shedding layers of the past that suffocated you. ㅤ If you find yourself obsessively cleaning or decluttering, ask yourself if it is just about the mess itself. Is it your trauma speaking through action? ㅤ Either way, there’s nothing wrong with you. Rather, consider that you are seeking order amidst the inner chaos to heal your trauma. ㅤ Accepting that the event that caused you the trauma (and that’s driving you to be obsessive about cleaning and tidiness) is well in the past, it gives you the access to feeling safe from within. ㅤ That feeling of safety enables you to relax, let go and turn into a healthy habit something that was till now a dysfunction, something that was driven by compulsion. ㅤ Then you can consciously go from survival to pure choice. ㅤ #smitajoshi #healingjourney #childhoodtrauma #narcissisticabuse #traumarecovery #selfworth #anxiety

You can’t change someone who doesn’t believe they’re doing anything wrong… ㅤ #toxicrelationships #relationships #smita #karmaanddiamonds

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When a narcissist chooses you as “the one,” it’s rarely love. It’s more about ownership and control. What follow are behaviours that show he sees you as his possession. 1️⃣ He isolates you from your circle. He criticises your friends or convinces you they do not care until you slowly stop seeing them. How to protect yourself: Notice when your world is getting smaller. Real love expands your life. It never shrinks it. 2️⃣ He mirrors your dreams, then turns them against you. At first, he claims to want the same life as you, then later calls your goals “unrealistic” or “selfish.” How to protect yourself: Write your dreams down in your own words and hold them close. Do not let anyone rewrite your story. 3️⃣ He controls through affection. He showers you with love when you do what he wants, then withdraws it when you do not. How to protect yourself: Love should never be conditional. Pay attention to the patterns rather than focusing only on the nice moments. 4️⃣ He undermines your confidence. Small comments about your looks, your intelligence or your worth slowly make you question yourself. How to protect yourself: Strengthen your self-trust through reflection and journaling so his words cannot define you. 5️⃣ He rewrites history to suit himself. He denies what he said or insists you are “imagining things.” How to protect yourself: Keep your truth in writing. Gaslighting loses its power when you hold onto evidence of reality. 6️⃣ He convinces you that you are the problem. Every fight ends with you apologising, even when he’s the one who crossed the line. How to protect yourself: Ask yourself, “Would a loving partner always blame me?” The answer tells you everything. A narcissist does not choose you out of love. He chooses you because he thinks he can control you. Seeing these signs clearly is the first step to breaking free. #smitajoshi #narcissist #toxicrelationships