Karma & Diamonds

I respect everyone’s sexuality. Fully. Still, when someone marries a person they aren’t actually attracted to, often because they’re confused or trying to “do the right thing,” it can slowly become a painful place for the spouse. This is because he is not really there. (If you’re a man and this resonates with your experience, please replace “he” with “she”. Here are some quiet signs many women feel but struggle to put into words: 1️⃣ Kind, respectful, still emotionally absent He does the “right” things. He’s polite and helpful. Still, he doesn’t meet her emotionally. 2️⃣ She carries the relationship She plans, decides, initiates and holds the emotional load. Over time, she stops feeling like a partner and starts feeling like the one running everything. 3️⃣ Intimacy feels disconnected Though there’s touch and affection, desire is missing. She starts to sense that she’s been chosen for stability or image - not because he truly wants her. That can slowly erode her confidence. 4️⃣ He can’t stay steady when she’s upset When she’s anxious, he mirrors her anxiety. When she’s overwhelmed, he shuts down. She doesn’t feel supported and feels like she has to manage both him as well as herself. 5️⃣ He avoids hard conversations Tension makes him retreat. She learns that saying how she feels creates distance so she stops speaking about her feelings. 6️⃣ She feels lonely beside him Nothing looks “wrong” on the surface. Still, something essential is missing and she knows it. If this resonated, you’re not alone. Share in the comments if you want to, or follow to stay close to this space.

5 ways a narcissistic mother dismantles her own family: 1️⃣ She turns people against each other. She tells one person one story and another person a different one. She plays favourites, repeats private, 1-2-1 conversations and stirs tension so people stop trusting each other. The family ends up divided, and she stays in the centre of it. 2️⃣ She makes everything about herself. If someone’s upset, she becomes the most upset. If someone’s happy, she finds a way to criticise it or ruin the moment. Her needs come first even when someone else is tired, sick or struggling. Everyone learns to keep things quiet to avoid drama. 3️⃣ She controls with fear and guilt. She uses lines like “After everything I’ve done for you” or “You’ve ruined my life” to get her way. She may cry, rage or withdraw until people give in. Over time, the family starts living around her moods. 4️⃣ She lies and rewrites what happened. She denies things she said, changes the story or insists you’re remembering it wrong. When you challenge her, she turns it back on you and makes it your fault. People start doubting themselves and stop speaking up because it feels pointless. 5️⃣ She wears down people’s confidence. She calls others selfish, lazy, ungrateful or too sensitive. Kids and partners start believing they’re the problem. Little by little, their self-trust drops and they start shrinking themselves just to cope.

If you were raised around guilt, you probably learned that saying no was “mean.” You learned to over-explain, overcompensate and keep the peace. That guilty feeling for saying “no” doesn’t mean you’re doing something selfish or wrong. It often means you’re doing something new. Something you haven’t yet fully rewired so that it becomes natural to take care of yourself. ㅤ #boundaries #peoplepleasing #innerchildhealing #selfrespect

This is one of the truest signs of emotional intelligence… do you agree? #emotionalintelligence #empath #boundaries #personalgrowth

The most exhausting dynamic is being pulled close and pushed away at the same time. They keep contacting you, checking on you, hovering or provoking you … refusing to change the behaviour that’s hurting you. ㅤ #toxicrelationships #emotionalabuse #nocontact #healingjourney

❤️ #spirituality #conciousness #loveyourself #abundance #jaybirdburger

Consistency in relationships is the bare minimum, not a prize you earn. When someone keeps switching up, pulling you close, then disappearing, it’s not your job to become “better” so they’ll finally choose you. Growth is choosing to honour yourself, perhaps by distancing, when the pattern costs you your peace. ㅤ #selfworth #datingadvice #healingjourney #relationshippatterns

Here are 5 ways a narcissistic mother treats her daughter: 1️⃣ She dismisses your emotions. If you cry, she says you’re too sensitive. If you speak up, she calls you rude or disrespectful. Instead of comforting you, she criticises you. You learn that your feelings are a problem rather than something that deserves to be treated with tenderness. 2️⃣ She competes with you instead of supporting you. When something good happens to you, she minimises it or shifts the focus back to herself. Your achievements don’t feel celebrated, they feel like an inconvenience. Over time, you start downplaying yourself, sharing less and sometime you might even question whether it’s okay to feel proud of your achievements. 3️⃣ She uses guilt to keep control. She reminds you of everything she’s done for you even when you didn’t ask. When you set boundaries, you’re called selfish or ungrateful. She may say you’ve changed or that you’re “breaking up the family” when you try to live your own life. 4️⃣ She becomes the victim when you raise an issue. When you try to talk about something that hurt you, she cries, gets angry or goes silent. You end up apologising for bringing it up. She rewrites what happened so she doesn’t have to take responsibility. In the end, you’re left doubting your own memory. 5️⃣ She doesn’t treat you as a separate person. Your choices, appearance and feelings are expected to reflect well on her. You weren’t encouraged to discover who you are, you were shaped to fit what she needed. When you step outside that role, you’re met with criticism, distance or shame. If this feels familiar, you’re not imagining it. This isn’t “just how mums are.” It’s a pattern and it has tremendous impact on you. #narcissisticparent #narcissisticpersonalitydisorder #narcissisticabuserecovery #motherwound #motherwoundhealing #narcsurvivor #narcawareness

You don’t win by exposing a narcissist… This is how you win. #narcissism #toxicrelationships #emotionalintelligence #boundaries #relationships #friendships

When someone’s been using you as a source of attention, they don’t feel “loss” the way you do. They feel the loss of control. That’s why they pop back up when you go quiet, move on or stop reacting. They’re trying to reopen the door, not rebuild a real connection. ㅤ #narcissisticabuse #healingjourney #boundaries #emotionalabuse

I hate cheating. I find it devastating and I wanted to understand the mindset behind it, not to justify it but to expose it. So I asked a man questions most people feel too uncomfortable to ask. I won’t share who he is, but he is a friend of a friend and I have known of him for a long time. 1. How could you cheat on the day your daughter was born? He laughed. He said he was just out “wetting the baby’s head” with friends and that one thing led to another. He told me the woman worked at a local bar, knew his wife and that it became an inside joke between them for years. 2. Did it cross your mind that your wife was recovering from birth while you were doing this? He shrugged and said she was fine. He said women are built for that sort of thing and that after the stress of the day he “deserved” a release. 3. Did you feel guilty afterwards? He said no, not really. He told me guilt is pointless and even if she ever found out it would not change anything. In his mind she could not leave because she does not work. So where would she go? 4. How did you justify keeping it secret? He said telling the truth would have caused drama and ruined his life. He said it was better to keep everyone calm and let time pass. What stayed with me was not even the act itself, it was the lack of humanity behind his words. He didn’t speak like a man who had made a terrible mistake. He spoke like someone who felt entitled to betray, lie and minimise a woman who had just brought his child into the world. This is why betrayal cuts so deep. Sometimes it’s not temptation or the act itself but the nature and character of the person it reveals. If this resonates, you are not alone. You’re welcome to share your thoughts in the comments, or follow to be here with us. #cheating #betrayal #toxicrelationships #relationshiptruths #emotionalabuse #narcissist #narcissism #healingjourney #selfworth #boundaries

If a woman carried your child, brought your baby into this world and gave her body and heart to build your family, she deserves lifelong respect. The relationship may end but the responsibility does not. 1️⃣ She is still the woman who kept your child safe before you ever held them Example: While you slept, she was soothing, carrying, growing and protecting the life you created together. How to heal: Your worth as a mother is not decided by how he treats you after the breakup. 2️⃣ She is the centre of your child’s emotional safety Example: The school forms, the appointments, the routines - she worries about even the mundane things. How to heal: Be consistent because this is what builds your child’s sense of safety. 3️⃣ She nurtures the memories he now takes for granted Example: The first steps, the long nights and the quiet milestones he might forget, these were moments she lived fully, often on her own. How to heal: Your bond with your child is proof of your strength and your value. 4️⃣ She reshapes her life to give the children stability Example: Her time, money, career and plans often revolve around keeping the children secure and grounded. How to heal: Do not minimise what you’ve gone through. It matters even when no one says thank you. 5️⃣ She’s not just an ex in your child’s story Example: Even when he moves on, she remains the one guiding, protecting and showing up every day. How to heal: Hold your boundaries. You deserve respect for being the mother. A man can move on from a relationship but he should never move on from honouring the woman who brought his children into the world. Co-parenting is a lifelong connection and being respected is part of the deal. If you found this helpful, comment and let me know. #coparenting #singlemum #divorcehealing #parenting #motherhood #healingjourney #boundaries #selfworth #relationshiptruths #emotionalhealing