Karma & Diamonds

Children expose narcissism without ever meaning to. The way someone behaves around a child often reveals what they work hard to hide from others. ㅤ 1️⃣ He competes with the child When the child receives praise, attention or warmth, he needs it too. 2️⃣ He uses the child as leverage He becomes affectionate only when it provokes a reaction from you. 3️⃣ He expects admiration from the child He sulks or withdraws when the child doesn’t put him at the centre. 4️⃣ He performs when others are watching The attentive, playful parent in public who is distant or absent at home. 5️⃣ He feels threatened by your bond with your child He interrupts moments of closeness or redirects attention back to himself. 6️⃣ He shows up only for the fun parts He plays games or posts photos but avoids being emotionally available or expressing genuine care. 7️⃣ He blames the child for his moods He blames the child for “stressing him out” but the truth is that his anger existed long before the child was born. 8️⃣ He treats the child as if they’re an extension of himself He praises achievements or behaviour that reflect well on him rather than praising the child’s for being who the child is inherently. A narcissist acts through a child, not *for* them. Awareness is protection. When you see it clearly, you safeguard the child’s innocence that they can’t honour. If this resonates, you are not alone. You’re welcome to share your thoughts in the comments or follow to be here with us. #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds #narcissist #narcissism #parenting #toxicfamily #childhoodwounds #emotionalabuse #healingjourney #innerchild #boundaries #selfworth

Accountability feels like defeat to them, so they twist the narrative until they look innocent and you look unreasonable. If you think this is love, you’d be wrong. Because this is how the ego protects itself. The moment you stop arguing with their version of reality is the moment you take your power back. ㅤ #narcissist #gaslighting #narcissisticabuse #healingjourney #selfworth #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

One thing a narcissist will often do in an argument is ask this: “Okay, give me one example of when I did that.” And suddenly your mind goes blank. You know the pattern. You know how it felt. You know it has happened before. Yet in that moment you can’t pull up one clear example on demand. That doesn’t mean you’re lying. It doesn’t mean you imagined it. It also doesn’t mean it did not happen. This is a tactic designed to take power away from you. They drag you into a courtroom you never agreed to enter. They demand perfect details while you’re already emotionally activated. Your nervous system is in fight or flight mode. When that happens the part of your brain that retrieves memories does not work in the same way. They know this, of course. By forcing you to produce one perfect example, they shift the focus away from their behaviour pattern and onto you. The second you hesitate, they use it as proof that you’re just exaggerating, being dramatic or unstable. The harm isn’t in the question. The harm is in their putting you on the spot. You are pressured to provide evidence while you’re overwhelmed, worn down and already doubting yourself from their constant denial and invalidation. That’s why later, when you’re calm, the examples come flooding back, when your mind finally feels safe enough to access them. If you struggle to recall details in the heat of an argument with someone who constantly denies your reality, to not see this as a flaw in you. This is good information because it shines a light on how unsafe the dynamic between you and them really is. #narcissist #narcissism #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

They will cry, blame, attack because accountability feels like a threat to their identity. Rather than working to fix the issue, they make an immense effort to protect their image. Once you understand that, you stop expecting honesty from someone who cannot give it. ㅤ #narcissist #narcissisticabuse #toxicrelationships #traumabond #healingjourney #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

A narcissist never truly sees the woman in front of him. He only notices the parts of her that feed his ego. This is how the damage happens undetected and over time. 1️⃣ He treats your love as fuel not connection When you give affection, he does not feel bonded or closer to you. He feels boosted. He feels powerful. Your warmth becomes something he believes he deserves rather than something to be cherished. 2️⃣ He mistakes loyalty for weakness The more committed you are the more secure he feels that you will stay no matter what. Instead of appreciating your loyalty. he tests it by crossing lines and watching how much you will tolerate. 3️⃣ He uses your pain as reassurance of control When you cry or withdraw he does not feel remorse. He feels validated. Your reaction tells him his words still have power over you. 4️⃣ He drains your kindness without noticing the cost Your empathy becomes something he leans on to regulate himself and avoid accountability. He takes your understanding freely without recognising what it is taking from you. 5️⃣ He only recognises your strength when you pull away That is when fear appears. He never respected your strength while it served him. He only notices it once it threatens his comfort. 6️⃣ He never truly sees you He sees what he needs reflected back at him. Not the woman who tried who cared who carried the emotional weight of the relationship. The moment you understand that you were never the problem is the moment your power begins to return. You were not asking for too much. You were merely asking the wrong person. #narcissist #narcissism #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

Revenge will never hurt a narcissist. Peace will. The most powerful message you can leave behind is simple: “I’m choosing to move on from this.” 1️⃣ They crave access not love They don’t miss you. They miss the control, the reaction, the emotional supply. The moment you go quiet their sense of power begins to collapse. How to heal: Every ignored message and unanswered call reinforces the truth they cannot accept — they no longer own access to you. 2️⃣ Your silence forces them inward Narcissists feed on attention. When it disappears they spiral. They replay conversations, watch your socials, and rewrite the story in their head. How to heal: Disengage fully. Block, mute, unfollow. Let your absence become the consequence. 3️⃣ It shatters their illusion of control They believed they were the one who decided when things began and when they ended. Your calm withdrawal destroys that narrative. How to heal: Choose distance and detachment, not revenge. It is quieter, slower and far more real in having them see your shift. 4️⃣ The power shifts back to you They may gossip, project or twist the story, yet deep down they know the truth: You outgrew them. How to heal: Every day that you do not react is a reminder that they were never as important as they believed. 5️⃣ It is the ending they cannot rewrite They expect chaos, tears and drama. Silence was never part of their plan. When you give them nothing they are left with one unbearable thought — you healed. Without them. How to heal: Let that be the final message. You left. You healed. You did not look back. #narcissist #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

The right person won’t be threatened by your depth or your needs. They won’t punish you for wanting connection. When love requires shrinking yourself or managing someone’s ego, it isn’t love. It is survival. ㅤ #toxicrelationships #selfworth #narcissist #healingjourney #traumabond #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

Do you overthink or do you not trust yourself? 👀 Here’s the difference. #overthinking #overthinker #indecisive #anxietysupport #selftrust #selfcompassion #smita #karmaanddiamonds

Narcissists don’t break when you confront them. They break when they realise they’ve lost you, your energy, your attention, your willingness to keep explaining yourself. And the most powerful part is, you never have to raise your voice. Here are five things that silently unravel their control: 1. Your silence You stop explaining, stop defending, stop reacting. Why it works: They thrive on emotional reactions. Silence leaves them powerless. 2. Your indifference You no longer flinch when they try to trigger you. You’ve stopped caring and they know it. Why it works: They want to be central to your world. Nothing feels more threatening than becoming irrelevant. 3. Your glow-up You start healing. You’re smiling again. You’re no longer stuck — and it has nothing to do with them. Why it works: They hoped you’d stay broken. Watching you rise without them is a truth they can’t escape. 4. Your boundaries You say no without guilt. You leave without a speech. Why it works: Boundaries remind them they never had as much power as they thought. 5. Your peace You don’t argue or retaliate — you simply move forward. Why it works: They don’t know how to survive without chaos. Peace is the one thing they can’t control. They don’t miss you, they miss the version of you they could control. And when that version no longer exists, they’re left with the one thing they’ve spent their whole life avoiding: themselves. #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds #fyp #narcissisticabuse #narcissist #narcissisticabusesurvivor #emotionalhealing

They know the truth, they just can’t let you say it out loud. Their meltdown is self-protection. When someone reacts this strongly to being asked to take accountability for what they did, it tells you everything about their character (and nothing about yours). ㅤ #narcissist #gaslighting #toxicrelationships #narcissisticabuse #healingjourney #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

Here are 5 ways a narcissistic mother treats her daughter: 1️⃣ She dismisses your emotions. If you cry, she says you’re too sensitive or worse, you’re weak. If you speak up, she calls you rude or disrespectful. Instead of comforting you, she criticises you. You learn that your feelings are a problem rather than something that deserves to be treated with tenderness. 2️⃣ She competes with you instead of supporting you. When something good happens to you, she minimises it or shifts the focus back to herself. Your achievements are undermined, not celebrated and they feel like an inconvenience. Over time, you start downplaying yourself, sharing less and less and at some point, you might even question whether it’s okay to feel good or proud of your achievements. 3️⃣ She uses guilt to keep control. She reminds you of everything she’s done for you even when you didn’t ask. When you set boundaries, you’re called selfish or ungrateful. She may say you’ve changed or that you’re “breaking up the family” when you try to live your own life. 4️⃣ She becomes the victim when you raise an issue. When you try to talk about something that hurt you, she cries, gets angry or goes silent. You end up apologising for bringing it up. She rewrites what happened so she doesn’t have to take responsibility. In the end, you’re left doubting your own memory. 5️⃣ She doesn’t treat you as a separate person. Your choices, appearance and feelings are expected to reflect well on her. You weren’t encouraged to discover who you are, you were shaped to fit what she needed. When you step outside that role, you’re met with criticism, distance or shame. If this feels familiar, you’re not imagining it. This isn’t “just how mums are.” It’s a pattern and it has tremendous impact on you. #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds #narcissisticparent #narcissisticpersonalitydisorder #narcissisticabuserecovery #motherwound #motherwoundhealing #narcsurvivor #narcawareness

In the right relationship, you feel safe with your person and this comes naturally. You don’t question yourself, your feelings or your place in their life. When someone calls you insecure while consistently giving you reason to doubt them or yourself, the issue is not your sensitivity. It’s because they themselves have not experienced feeling emotionally secure. ㅤ #healingjourney #selfworth #toxicrelationships #innerchild #selflove #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds