Karma & Diamonds

If a woman carried your child, brought your baby into this world and gave her body and heart to build your family, she deserves lifelong respect. The relationship may end but the responsibility does not. 1️⃣ She is still the woman who kept your child safe before you ever held them Example: While you slept, she was soothing, carrying, growing and protecting the life you created together. How to heal: Your worth as a mother is not decided by how he treats you after the breakup. 2️⃣ She is the centre of your child’s emotional safety Example: The school forms, the appointments, the routines - she worries about even the mundane things. How to heal: Be consistent because this is what builds your child’s sense of safety. 3️⃣ She nurtures the memories he now takes for granted Example: The first steps, the long nights and the quiet milestones he might forget, these were moments she lived fully, often on her own. How to heal: Your bond with your child is proof of your strength and your value. 4️⃣ She reshapes her life to give the children stability Example: Her time, money, career and plans often revolve around keeping the children secure and grounded. How to heal: Do not minimise what you’ve gone through. It matters even when no one says thank you. 5️⃣ She’s not just an ex in your child’s story Example: Even when he moves on, she remains the one guiding, protecting and showing up every day. How to heal: Hold your boundaries. You deserve respect for being the mother. A man can move on from a relationship but he should never move on from honouring the woman who brought his children into the world. Co-parenting is a lifelong connection and being respected is part of the deal. If you found this helpful, comment and let me know. #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds #coparenting #singlemum #divorcehealing #parenting #motherhood #healingjourney #boundaries #selfworth #relationshiptruths #emotionalhealing

This is the push and pull that creates trauma bonds. They give you crumbs so you stay hopeful, then withdraw the moment you need more. ㅤ Healing begins when you stop accepting proximity as proof of love. ㅤ #toxicrelationships #traumabond #healingjourney #narcissist #selfworth #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

When his ego starts craving excitement more than loyalty, he forgets the people who loved him first. 1️⃣ His ex-wife’s humanity Example: He speaks about her like she is a nuisance from his past instead of a real person who shared years of his life. How to heal: His version of you does not define you. Your truth still matters. 2️⃣ The mother of his children Example: He talks about her with disrespect as if she did not carry and raise his family. How to heal: You deserve honour for what you gave and what you endured. 3️⃣ His children’s feelings Example: He assumes the kids will just adjust to less time, less attention and a new reality. How to heal: Keep reminding them they are still worthy of love, stability and his presence in their lives. 4️⃣ The years she supported him Example: He forgets the sacrifices, the patience, the late nights and the ways she held everything together. How to heal: Do not minimise what you’ve built. It has value even if he refuses to acknowledge it. 5️⃣ Shared memories Example: He rewrites the past to justify his decisions. How to heal: You’re allowed to treasure the good moments. 6️⃣ His responsibility Example: He chases a fresh start while turning a blind eye to the harm he caused. How to heal: What he refuses to face - his shadow - follows him everywhere. Nothing for you to do about this. 7️⃣ Her worth Example: He uses someone new to feel powerful again while the message he gives you is: “You are replaceable.” How to heal: You were never dispensable. His choices reflect his character, not your worth. #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds #divorcehealing #cheating #betrayal #coparenting #toxicrelationships #narcissist #narcissism #healingjourney #selfworth #boundaries

I hate cheating but I wanted to hear what it sounds like from the person doing it, not to justify it but to understand the mindset behind it. So I asked him these questions: 1️⃣ Did you feel guilty? He said not in a way that mattered. He described guilt like a passing feeling that came and went. It never stayed long enough to make him stop. 2️⃣ What was it like being intimate with your wife while the affair was going on? He said it felt normal. Routine. Easy. He said he learnt to split his life into separate boxes so he could move between them without giving much thought to what it meant. 3️⃣ Did you ever consider telling the truth? He said the truth felt riskier than the betrayal. He was more frightened of losing his creature comforts than having integrity. 4️⃣ What excuses did you use to cover it up? Long days. Late meetings. Stress. Being tired. Needing space. Then turning it back on her so that she would doubt herself, making her feel like she must be just overthinking it when she sensed something was off. What stayed with me was not rage. It was how casual he was about it. He didn’t sound like someone who’d made a terrible mistake. He sounded like someone who believed he deserved both worlds. That’s one of the reasons why betrayal cuts so deep. So often it’s not one bad decision. It’s a pattern repeated until this sort of behaviour becomes normal. Have you ever been in this situation? And if you’re a man who has ever done this, or been at the receiving end of this, I’d love to hear your perspective in the comments too. #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds #marriageadvice #narcissist #narcissism #cheating #affair

Growing up means realising that boundaries are clarity, not cruelty. You cannot change people but you can choose distance, peace and self-respect. Healing is the moment you stop giving unlimited access to people who drain you. ㅤ #boundaries #healingjourney #selfworth #toxicrelationships #innerstrength #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

Children expose narcissism without ever meaning to. The way someone behaves around a child often reveals what they work hard to hide from others. ㅤ 1️⃣ He competes with the child When the child receives praise, attention or warmth, he needs it too. 2️⃣ He uses the child as leverage He becomes affectionate only when it provokes a reaction from you. 3️⃣ He expects admiration from the child He sulks or withdraws when the child doesn’t put him at the centre. 4️⃣ He performs when others are watching The attentive, playful parent in public who is distant or absent at home. 5️⃣ He feels threatened by your bond with your child He interrupts moments of closeness or redirects attention back to himself. 6️⃣ He shows up only for the fun parts He plays games or posts photos but avoids being emotionally available or expressing genuine care. 7️⃣ He blames the child for his moods He blames the child for “stressing him out” but the truth is that his anger existed long before the child was born. 8️⃣ He treats the child as if they’re an extension of himself He praises achievements or behaviour that reflect well on him rather than praising the child’s for being who the child is inherently. A narcissist acts through a child, not *for* them. Awareness is protection. When you see it clearly, you safeguard the child’s innocence that they can’t honour. If this resonates, you are not alone. You’re welcome to share your thoughts in the comments or follow to be here with us. #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds #narcissist #narcissism #parenting #toxicfamily #childhoodwounds #emotionalabuse #healingjourney #innerchild #boundaries #selfworth

Accountability feels like defeat to them, so they twist the narrative until they look innocent and you look unreasonable. If you think this is love, you’d be wrong. Because this is how the ego protects itself. The moment you stop arguing with their version of reality is the moment you take your power back. ㅤ #narcissist #gaslighting #narcissisticabuse #healingjourney #selfworth #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

One thing a narcissist will often do in an argument is ask this: “Okay, give me one example of when I did that.” And suddenly your mind goes blank. You know the pattern. You know how it felt. You know it has happened before. Yet in that moment you can’t pull up one clear example on demand. That doesn’t mean you’re lying. It doesn’t mean you imagined it. It also doesn’t mean it did not happen. This is a tactic designed to take power away from you. They drag you into a courtroom you never agreed to enter. They demand perfect details while you’re already emotionally activated. Your nervous system is in fight or flight mode. When that happens the part of your brain that retrieves memories does not work in the same way. They know this, of course. By forcing you to produce one perfect example, they shift the focus away from their behaviour pattern and onto you. The second you hesitate, they use it as proof that you’re just exaggerating, being dramatic or unstable. The harm isn’t in the question. The harm is in their putting you on the spot. You are pressured to provide evidence while you’re overwhelmed, worn down and already doubting yourself from their constant denial and invalidation. That’s why later, when you’re calm, the examples come flooding back, when your mind finally feels safe enough to access them. If you struggle to recall details in the heat of an argument with someone who constantly denies your reality, to not see this as a flaw in you. This is good information because it shines a light on how unsafe the dynamic between you and them really is. #narcissist #narcissism #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

They will cry, blame, attack because accountability feels like a threat to their identity. Rather than working to fix the issue, they make an immense effort to protect their image. Once you understand that, you stop expecting honesty from someone who cannot give it. ㅤ #narcissist #narcissisticabuse #toxicrelationships #traumabond #healingjourney #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

A narcissist never truly sees the woman in front of him. He only notices the parts of her that feed his ego. This is how the damage happens undetected and over time. 1️⃣ He treats your love as fuel not connection When you give affection, he does not feel bonded or closer to you. He feels boosted. He feels powerful. Your warmth becomes something he believes he deserves rather than something to be cherished. 2️⃣ He mistakes loyalty for weakness The more committed you are the more secure he feels that you will stay no matter what. Instead of appreciating your loyalty. he tests it by crossing lines and watching how much you will tolerate. 3️⃣ He uses your pain as reassurance of control When you cry or withdraw he does not feel remorse. He feels validated. Your reaction tells him his words still have power over you. 4️⃣ He drains your kindness without noticing the cost Your empathy becomes something he leans on to regulate himself and avoid accountability. He takes your understanding freely without recognising what it is taking from you. 5️⃣ He only recognises your strength when you pull away That is when fear appears. He never respected your strength while it served him. He only notices it once it threatens his comfort. 6️⃣ He never truly sees you He sees what he needs reflected back at him. Not the woman who tried who cared who carried the emotional weight of the relationship. The moment you understand that you were never the problem is the moment your power begins to return. You were not asking for too much. You were merely asking the wrong person. #narcissist #narcissism #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

Revenge will never hurt a narcissist. Peace will. The most powerful message you can leave behind is simple: “I’m choosing to move on from this.” 1️⃣ They crave access not love They don’t miss you. They miss the control, the reaction, the emotional supply. The moment you go quiet their sense of power begins to collapse. How to heal: Every ignored message and unanswered call reinforces the truth they cannot accept — they no longer own access to you. 2️⃣ Your silence forces them inward Narcissists feed on attention. When it disappears they spiral. They replay conversations, watch your socials, and rewrite the story in their head. How to heal: Disengage fully. Block, mute, unfollow. Let your absence become the consequence. 3️⃣ It shatters their illusion of control They believed they were the one who decided when things began and when they ended. Your calm withdrawal destroys that narrative. How to heal: Choose distance and detachment, not revenge. It is quieter, slower and far more real in having them see your shift. 4️⃣ The power shifts back to you They may gossip, project or twist the story, yet deep down they know the truth: You outgrew them. How to heal: Every day that you do not react is a reminder that they were never as important as they believed. 5️⃣ It is the ending they cannot rewrite They expect chaos, tears and drama. Silence was never part of their plan. When you give them nothing they are left with one unbearable thought — you healed. Without them. How to heal: Let that be the final message. You left. You healed. You did not look back. #narcissist #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

The right person won’t be threatened by your depth or your needs. They won’t punish you for wanting connection. When love requires shrinking yourself or managing someone’s ego, it isn’t love. It is survival. ㅤ #toxicrelationships #selfworth #narcissist #healingjourney #traumabond #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds