Karma & Diamonds

What men think during no contact 👀 ... ㅤ cc: apbtalks ㅤ #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds #nocontact #foryou #fyp #relationships #situationships #breakups #relationshipadvice

This is the strangest feeling … but perhaps also sometimes comforting? Let me know if you've ever experienced this in the comments! 🤍 #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds #smitajoshimeditations #journeyofselfdiscovery #inspirationalquotes #healingjourney #soultie #soulconnection #relationships

More than 2,000 years ago, the 𝗞𝗮𝘁𝗵𝗮 𝗨𝗽𝗮𝗻𝗶𝘀𝗵𝗮𝗱 explored a question that neuroscience and psychology are still trying to answer: ㅤ 𝙒𝙝𝙤 𝙞𝙨 𝙖𝙬𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙤𝙛 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙤𝙪𝙜𝙝𝙩? If you can notice a thought, then you cannot be the thought itself. The Upanishad points to an ever-present awareness that witnesses every thought, emotion and experience without becoming any of them. The Silent Witness. The mind will continue to think. That's its nature. Freedom begins when you stop identifying with everything it says. Thoughts come and go. Awareness knows them remains ... that's the Real You. ㅤ #SmitaJoshi #KarmaAndDiamonds #VedicPhilosophy #Upanishads #Consciousness #SelfDiscovery #Meditation #InnerFreedom

Narcissists rarely feel real pain, but they do feel wounded when their control slips. Here are six ways to strike back with power they can’t steal: ㅤ 1. Stop defending yourself They thrive on your attempts to explain. When you’re silent and firm, you deny them the reaction they crave. ㅤ 2. Heal so they can’t reach the person they broke They want you trapped in the version of you that begged and cried. By protecting your peace and going no contact, you become untouchable. ㅤ 3. Laugh and live joyfully Nothing unsettles them more than seeing you happy without their approval. Your genuine smile is proof they no longer have your heart. ㅤ 4. Speak your truth They survive on their own version of events. When you share what really happened, you expose their lies and let others see who they are. ㅤ 5. Refuse their bait They’ll reach out just to provoke a reaction. Ignoring those messages robs them of significance and reminds them they’re no longer the centre of your world. ㅤ 6. Build a life they can’t join you in Their greatest fear is fading into irrelevance. By thriving, growing and moving forward, you deliver the deepest cut—your undeniable success. ㅤ You don’t need revenge. Becoming the person they never believed you could be is your ultimate triumph. ㅤ #narcissist #narcissism #narcissisticabusesurvivor #smitajoshi

Do you know the ultimate path to ascension? Accepting everything in your life and choosing to heal from it 🤍 ㅤ #soul #soulcontract #souljourney #smitajpshi #karmaanddiamonds

In the right relationship, safety comes naturally. You don’t question yourself, your feelings or your place in their life. ㅤ When someone calls you 'insecure' while consistently making you doubt yourself, while saying you are being 'too sensitive', the issue lies in that they're projecting onto you their inability to feel emotionally safe. ㅤ #healingjourney #selfworth #toxicrelationships #innerchild #selflove

Last weekend, Radhe Jaggi (the daughter of @sadhguru) and team gave me the honour to watch her perform a series of exquisite Bharat Natyam dances at Riverside Studios in Hammersmith, London. The theme was "Bhakta", meaning devotee, and apt just the day after Krishna Bhagvan's birthday, "Janmashtami". This was a profound exploration of what it means to devote yourself - to your God / deity, lover, art, mission ... Radhe was flawless. Her performance, and I hesitate to call it that, because it I felt as though Radhe was being a true instrument for the stories she was telling through her art form. Technical precision combined with devotion, the theme of the day. She played a cowgirl or Gopi, besotted with Krishna one moment and the Angel of Death the next, with equal "bhava" or experience of inner feeling the next. She really filled the stage and theatre alike. I was thoroughly captivated - her devotion to the her dance, connection of the "beings" and stories she was expressing and her presence were remarkable. #higherself #selfdiscipline #sacreddance #healingarts #bhakti

Children expose narcissism without ever meaning to. The way someone behaves around a child often reveals what they work hard to hide from others. ㅤ 1️⃣ He competes with the child When the child receives praise, attention or warmth, he needs it too. ㅤ 2️⃣ He uses the child as leverage ㅤ He becomes affectionate only when it provokes a reaction from you. ㅤ 3️⃣ He expects admiration from the child He sulks or withdraws when the child doesn’t put him at the centre. ㅤ 4️⃣ He performs when others are watching The attentive, playful parent in public who is distant or absent at home. ㅤ 5️⃣ He feels threatened by your bond with your child He interrupts your moments of closeness with your chid or redirects attention back to himself. ㅤ 6️⃣ He shows up only for the fun parts He plays games or posts photos but avoids being emotionally available or giving genuine care. ㅤ 7️⃣ He blames the child for his moods He blames the child for “stressing him out” but the truth is that his anger existed long before the child was born. ㅤ 8️⃣ He treats the child as if they’re an extension of himself He praises achievements or behaviour that reflect well on him rather than praising the child’s for being who the child is inherently. ㅤ A narcissist acts through a child, not for them. Awareness is protection. When you see this clearly, you safeguard your child’s innocence that he's incapable of honouring. ㅤ If this resonates, you are not alone. You’re welcome to share your thoughts in the comments or follow to be here with us. ㅤ #narcissist #narcissism #parenting #toxicfamily #childhoodwounds #emotionalabuse #healingjourney #innerchild #boundaries #selfworth

One question has shaped my life more than any other: Why do I feel like something's missing in me? ㅤ That question took me on a journey across continents, through relationships, success, heartbreak and spirituality. ㅤ It even took me into my past lives, where I found answers to questions I could never fully explain through this lifetime alone. ㅤ Yet the greatest discovery of my journey wasn't found in another country, another relationship or even another lifetime. ㅤ It was discovering the part of myself that had always been whole and complete. ㅤ Years later, I discovered that the 𝘾𝙝𝙖𝙣𝙙𝙤𝙜𝙮𝙖 𝙐𝙥𝙖𝙣𝙞𝙨𝙝𝙖𝙙, written over 2,500 years ago, had beautifully articulated the very experience I'd already had. ㅤ 𝙏𝙖𝙩 𝙏𝙫𝙖𝙢 𝘼𝙨𝙞. 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙏𝙝𝙖𝙩. ㅤ Reading those words validated my experience. They gave language to my inner experience. And that moment changed everything for me. ㅤ It showed me that what I'd spent so many years searching for had never actually been missing. ㅤ It had always been there. Waiting for me to simply recognise it. To connect with it. ㅤ 𝙏𝙤 𝙖𝙡𝙞𝙜𝙣 𝙢𝙮 𝙡𝙞𝙛𝙚 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙞𝙩. ㅤ What have you been searching for? ㅤ I'd love to hear your thoughts in the comments. ㅤ If you'd like to explore this journey more deeply, you'll find it throughout the 𝙆𝙖𝙧𝙢𝙖 & 𝘿𝙞𝙖𝙢𝙤𝙣𝙙𝙨 trilogy, together with the accompanying guided meditations, available on Amazon and through my website. ㅤ #SmitaJoshi #KarmaAndDiamonds #VedicPhilosophy #ChandogyaUpanishad #TatTvamAsi #Upanishads #SelfDiscovery #Consciousness #InnerFreedom #Purpose #SpiritualAwakening #PersonalGrowth

One minute they’re shattered - can't sleep, can't eat, questioning everything - and the next minute they're acting like nothing happened. Here are the 7 things narcissists do after a breakup that healthy people don't.👇🏼 ㅤ 1️⃣ They replace you immediately because they can't be alone by themselves. Healthy people stay with the pain and feel it fully. Narcissists run from it. ㅤ 2️⃣ They act like it meant nothing. No grief, no processing - because it was never really love to them, it was control. And losing you means losing control. ㅤ 3️⃣ They rewrite the story so you become the problem. Suddenly you are "crazy," "too much," "unstable." Healthy people take accountability for their part in the relationship dynamic. Narcissists just change the script to suit their needs. ㅤ 4️⃣ They show off a new partner online but it's all fake - they only do it to hurt and confuse you, so that you will doubt yourself. ㅤ 5️⃣ They watch you from a distance i.e. checking your stories, asking mutual friends about you, hovering without ever actually reaching out. They don't miss you … they miss the energy they took from you. ㅤ 6️⃣ They randomly reach out with a soft message, a memory, a "thinking of you" out of nowhere. That's bait. ㅤ 7️⃣ They never fully leave, keeping one foot wedged in the door. A healthy person lets go. A narcissist always returns. ㅤ If you're still feeling pulled towards someone who's hurt you, that's a trauma bond - not to be confused with weakness. And trauma bonds are common than you might think. ㅤ Does this sound like you? Tell me in the comments 💌 ㅤ #narcissist #traumabond #karmaanddiamonds #smitajoshi

Read "he" and "him" as "she" and 'her", as it applied to you. ㅤ He sees her as something he owns, not as his partner. In his mind she's there to support his image, not to be understood or valued. People rarely talk about this … ㅤ 1️⃣ “She’ll never leave me” ㅤ He weakens her sense of self until she believes she can't manage without him. He chips away at her confidence until she feels small. ㅤ Reality: She can leave. The moment she chooses herself over his control is the moment his power disappears. ㅤ 2️⃣ “If she walks away I’ll pull her back” ㅤ He offers whatever sounds convincing in the moment. Therapy, change, affection, anything that keeps her close. None of this is about healing. It is about getting what his needs met by her. ㅤ Protect yourself: Believe behaviour patterns, not promises. Consistency of behaviour is what reveals truth. ㅤ 3️⃣ “She's there to keep me feeling superior” ㅤ He needs to keep her unsure and doubting herself so that he can feel certain and strong about himself. When she grows, he cuts her down. ㅤ Heal by remembering: You have never been "the problem". You're with someone who feels threatened by your strength. ㅤ 4️⃣ “No one will believe her” ㅤ He prepares his audience early. He labels her as insecure, unstable, or dramatic so that when she speaks, people immediately doubt her. ㅤ Protect your heart: You don't need to convince anyone who chooses his version of events. ㅤ 5️⃣ “I’ll keep her off balance” ㅤ He shifts between cruelty and affection, guilt and comfort. The inconsistency keeps her hoping for the version of him that never stays. ㅤ The way out: Clarity. Write down what you experience. When you see it in your own words, the pattern becomes undeniably visible. ㅤ 6️⃣ “She still cares so I win” ㅤ He measures control by the emotion she evokes in him. Pain, confusion, affection- it all feeds his ego. ㅤ Heal by reclaiming your energy. You don't need to hate him. ㅤ #marriage #narcissist #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

You don’t need another apology or explanation. The truth is in what they chose to keep doing, even after they saw (while pretending not to) it was breaking you ... and relished in it. ㅤ Closure is simply realising this ... and walking away anyway. ㅤ Do you agree? ㅤ #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds #psychology #emotionalintelligence #narcissist #narcissism #relationships #breakups #trauma #closure