Karma & Diamonds

Children expose narcissism without ever meaning to. The way someone behaves around a child often reveals what they work hard to hide from others. ㅤ 1️⃣ He competes with the child When the child receives praise, attention or warmth, he needs it too. ㅤ 2️⃣ He uses the child as leverage ㅤ He becomes affectionate only when it provokes a reaction from you. ㅤ 3️⃣ He expects admiration from the child He sulks or withdraws when the child doesn’t put him at the centre. ㅤ 4️⃣ He performs when others are watching The attentive, playful parent in public who is distant or absent at home. ㅤ 5️⃣ He feels threatened by your bond with your child He interrupts your moments of closeness with your chid or redirects attention back to himself. ㅤ 6️⃣ He shows up only for the fun parts He plays games or posts photos but avoids being emotionally available or giving genuine care. ㅤ 7️⃣ He blames the child for his moods He blames the child for “stressing him out” but the truth is that his anger existed long before the child was born. ㅤ 8️⃣ He treats the child as if they’re an extension of himself He praises achievements or behaviour that reflect well on him rather than praising the child’s for being who the child is inherently. ㅤ A narcissist acts through a child, not for them. Awareness is protection. When you see this clearly, you safeguard your child’s innocence that he's incapable of honouring. ㅤ If this resonates, you are not alone. You’re welcome to share your thoughts in the comments or follow to be here with us. ㅤ #narcissist #narcissism #parenting #toxicfamily #childhoodwounds #emotionalabuse #healingjourney #innerchild #boundaries #selfworth

One question has shaped my life more than any other: Why do I feel like something's missing in me? ㅤ That question took me on a journey across continents, through relationships, success, heartbreak and spirituality. ㅤ It even took me into my past lives, where I found answers to questions I could never fully explain through this lifetime alone. ㅤ Yet the greatest discovery of my journey wasn't found in another country, another relationship or even another lifetime. ㅤ It was discovering the part of myself that had always been whole and complete. ㅤ Years later, I discovered that the 𝘾𝙝𝙖𝙣𝙙𝙤𝙜𝙮𝙖 𝙐𝙥𝙖𝙣𝙞𝙨𝙝𝙖𝙙, written over 2,500 years ago, had beautifully articulated the very experience I'd already had. ㅤ 𝙏𝙖𝙩 𝙏𝙫𝙖𝙢 𝘼𝙨𝙞. 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙏𝙝𝙖𝙩. ㅤ Reading those words validated my experience. They gave language to my inner experience. And that moment changed everything for me. ㅤ It showed me that what I'd spent so many years searching for had never actually been missing. ㅤ It had always been there. Waiting for me to simply recognise it. To connect with it. ㅤ 𝙏𝙤 𝙖𝙡𝙞𝙜𝙣 𝙢𝙮 𝙡𝙞𝙛𝙚 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙞𝙩. ㅤ What have you been searching for? ㅤ I'd love to hear your thoughts in the comments. ㅤ If you'd like to explore this journey more deeply, you'll find it throughout the 𝙆𝙖𝙧𝙢𝙖 & 𝘿𝙞𝙖𝙢𝙤𝙣𝙙𝙨 trilogy, together with the accompanying guided meditations, available on Amazon and through my website. ㅤ #SmitaJoshi #KarmaAndDiamonds #VedicPhilosophy #ChandogyaUpanishad #TatTvamAsi #Upanishads #SelfDiscovery #Consciousness #InnerFreedom #Purpose #SpiritualAwakening #PersonalGrowth

One minute they’re shattered - can't sleep, can't eat, questioning everything - and the next minute they're acting like nothing happened. Here are the 7 things narcissists do after a breakup that healthy people don't.👇🏼 ㅤ 1️⃣ They replace you immediately because they can't be alone by themselves. Healthy people stay with the pain and feel it fully. Narcissists run from it. ㅤ 2️⃣ They act like it meant nothing. No grief, no processing - because it was never really love to them, it was control. And losing you means losing control. ㅤ 3️⃣ They rewrite the story so you become the problem. Suddenly you are "crazy," "too much," "unstable." Healthy people take accountability for their part in the relationship dynamic. Narcissists just change the script to suit their needs. ㅤ 4️⃣ They show off a new partner online but it's all fake - they only do it to hurt and confuse you, so that you will doubt yourself. ㅤ 5️⃣ They watch you from a distance i.e. checking your stories, asking mutual friends about you, hovering without ever actually reaching out. They don't miss you … they miss the energy they took from you. ㅤ 6️⃣ They randomly reach out with a soft message, a memory, a "thinking of you" out of nowhere. That's bait. ㅤ 7️⃣ They never fully leave, keeping one foot wedged in the door. A healthy person lets go. A narcissist always returns. ㅤ If you're still feeling pulled towards someone who's hurt you, that's a trauma bond - not to be confused with weakness. And trauma bonds are common than you might think. ㅤ Does this sound like you? Tell me in the comments 💌 ㅤ #narcissist #traumabond #karmaanddiamonds #smitajoshi

Read "he" and "him" as "she" and 'her", as it applied to you. ㅤ He sees her as something he owns, not as his partner. In his mind she's there to support his image, not to be understood or valued. People rarely talk about this … ㅤ 1️⃣ “She’ll never leave me” ㅤ He weakens her sense of self until she believes she can't manage without him. He chips away at her confidence until she feels small. ㅤ Reality: She can leave. The moment she chooses herself over his control is the moment his power disappears. ㅤ 2️⃣ “If she walks away I’ll pull her back” ㅤ He offers whatever sounds convincing in the moment. Therapy, change, affection, anything that keeps her close. None of this is about healing. It is about getting what his needs met by her. ㅤ Protect yourself: Believe behaviour patterns, not promises. Consistency of behaviour is what reveals truth. ㅤ 3️⃣ “She's there to keep me feeling superior” ㅤ He needs to keep her unsure and doubting herself so that he can feel certain and strong about himself. When she grows, he cuts her down. ㅤ Heal by remembering: You have never been "the problem". You're with someone who feels threatened by your strength. ㅤ 4️⃣ “No one will believe her” ㅤ He prepares his audience early. He labels her as insecure, unstable, or dramatic so that when she speaks, people immediately doubt her. ㅤ Protect your heart: You don't need to convince anyone who chooses his version of events. ㅤ 5️⃣ “I’ll keep her off balance” ㅤ He shifts between cruelty and affection, guilt and comfort. The inconsistency keeps her hoping for the version of him that never stays. ㅤ The way out: Clarity. Write down what you experience. When you see it in your own words, the pattern becomes undeniably visible. ㅤ 6️⃣ “She still cares so I win” ㅤ He measures control by the emotion she evokes in him. Pain, confusion, affection- it all feeds his ego. ㅤ Heal by reclaiming your energy. You don't need to hate him. ㅤ #marriage #narcissist #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

You don’t need another apology or explanation. The truth is in what they chose to keep doing, even after they saw (while pretending not to) it was breaking you ... and relished in it. ㅤ Closure is simply realising this ... and walking away anyway. ㅤ Do you agree? ㅤ #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds #psychology #emotionalintelligence #narcissist #narcissism #relationships #breakups #trauma #closure

One thing a narcissist will often do in an argument is ask: “Okay, give me one example of when I did that.” In that moment, suddenly, your mind goes blank. You know their behaviour pattern. You know how it feels. You know it's happened countless times before. Yet, in that moment, you can’t think of one clear example. They'll say this is proof that you’re lying. That you imagined it. They'll say, therefore, what you claim never happened. Know that this is a tactic that's designed to take your power away from you. They drag you into a courtroom you never agreed to enter. They demand perfect details while triggering heightened emotion in you ... While your nervous system is in fight or flight mode. When this is happening, the part of your brain that retrieves memories doesn't work in the same way as it normally does. They know this, of course. By forcing you to produce one perfect example, they shift the focus away from the pattern and onto you. The second you hesitate, they use it as proof that you’re just exaggerating, being dramatic, insecure or unstable. Their question itself might be harmless enough, but harm is in their putting you on the spot. They pressure you to provide evidence while you’re overwhelmed, worn down and already doubting yourself, given their constant denial and invalidation of you. That’s why later, when you’re calm and your mind finally feels safe enough to access them, many examples come flooding back. If you struggle to recall details in the heat of an argument with someone who constantly denies your reality, don't assume that this must be a flaw in you. See it as good, useful information, because what this episode is doing is shining a light on how unsafe the dynamic between you and them really is. #narcissist #narcissism #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

This is not about judging anyone’s sexuality. Being gay is not the problem. The real pain begins when a woman gives her whole heart to a marriage, only to discover later that her partner was never capable of loving her in the way she needed or deserved. These signs are not to blame. They're here to help you recognise the patterns early and protect yourself from years of confusion and especially, self-doubt. 1️⃣ He avoids real intimacy He’s there in body you but never _with_ you. Physical closeness between you feels distant, mechanical, even. His body is there but his soul is somewhere else. You feel the rejection long before you ever understand it. 2️⃣ His emotional world belongs to other men, not you Friendships are healthy but when every emotional need is met elsewhere, you become invisible. You’re the partner in name but not in connection. 3️⃣ He shows no instinct to protect you when other men look at you Instead of caring for you or being present with you, he's indifferent to you. His detachment feels strange, almost hollow, like something vital is missing. 4️⃣ His attraction toward women feels rehearsed The compliments, affection, even intimacy can feel like performance. That's because he's not coming from desire but obligation … like he’s playing a role he never truly wanted. 5️⃣ He's distant with you No matter how much love you give him, he never fully lets you in. It’s like living with someone who keeps the door locked to his truth of who he is within. None of this makes him a bad person. It's just heartbreaking to pour your love, loyalty and years into a marriage in which you were never truly chosen. Recognising these signs early will bring you so much clarity. It helps you understand that you were never unworthy, but that the connection was never aligned to begin with. Have you experienced any of these signs? #marriage #marriageadvice #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

Loneliness leaves you searching for someone to fill the emptiness. It makes you feel like something is wrong. Loneliness feels like something to escape. ㅤ Solitude creates the space you need to discover the deeper connection that's hidden within the emptiness. ㅤ When you stop resisting that feeling of emptiness and simply be with it, it becomes solitude … a time to cherish being with your own self. ㅤ Solitude unleashes your creativity and inner strength. Solitude brings clarity. ㅤ Solitude helps you see your own needs and listen to the deeper Intelligence within. Solitude opens the door to the deepest connection with your own true Self. ㅤ #Solitude #Loneliness #SelfDiscovery #InnerStrength #Consciousness #SmitaJoshi #KarmaAndDiamonds

Narcissists don’t break when you confront them. ㅤ They break when they realise they’ve lost access to you, your energy, your attention, your willingness to keep explaining yourself. ㅤ And the most powerful part is, you never have to raise your voice. ㅤ Here are five things that will unravel their control: ㅤ 1. Your silence ㅤ You stop explaining, stop defending, stop reacting. ㅤ Why it works: They thrive on emotional reactions. Silence leaves them powerless. ㅤ 2. Your indifference ㅤ You no longer flinch when they try to trigger you. You’ve stopped caring in a way that depletes you and they know it. ㅤ Why it works: They want to be central to your world. Nothing feels more threatening than becoming irrelevant. ㅤ 3. Your glow-up ㅤ You start healing. You’re smiling again. You’re no longer stuck — and it has nothing to do with them. ㅤ Why it works: They hoped you’d stay broken. Watching you rise without them is a truth they can’t escape. ㅤ 4. Your boundaries ㅤ You say no without guilt. You leave without a speech. ㅤ Why it works: Boundaries remind them they never had as much power as they thought. ㅤ 5. Your peace ㅤ You don’t argue, you don’t retaliate — you simply move forward. ㅤ Why it works: They don’t know how to survive without chaos. Peace is the one thing they can’t control. ㅤ What you need to know is this: They don’t miss you, they miss the version of you they could control. ㅤ And when that version no longer exists, they’re left with the one thing they’ve spent their whole lives avoiding: themselves. ㅤ #smitajoshi #fyp #narcissisticabuse #narcissist #narcissisticabusesurvivor #emotionalhealing

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The 𝗜𝘀𝗵𝗮 𝗨𝗽𝗮𝗻𝗶𝘀𝗵𝗮𝗱, written over 2,500 years ago, offers a profound insight into why we compare ourselves to other people. ㅤ Comparison begins the moment we believe someone else has something we need in order to feel complete. ㅤ More success. More beauty. More money. More recognition. ㅤ The Isha Upanishad points in a different direction. ㅤ No one can be a better version of you than you. Because no one else can ever be your UNIQUE Self. ㅤ The moment you recognise that, comparison begins to lose its grip. ㅤ Because you've remembered what has always been uniquely yours. ㅤ What helps you come back to your own Self when comparison creeps in? I'd love to hear your thoughts in the comments. ㅤ #SmitaJoshi #KarmaAndDiamonds #VedicPhilosophy #IshaUpanishad #Upanishads #SelfDiscovery #SelfWorth #Consciousness #InnerFreedom #PersonalGrowth #Comparison #SpiritualAwakening

Here’s why it happens: You get used to not having preferences When you were with someone who criticised you, dismissed you or accused you of being “too much,” it was easier not to choose. Over time, you learn to keep things neutral so no one can judge you. It can feel safer not to get attached Some people avoid decorating because it feels like settling in. If you’ve lived with life changes happening suddenly, you might stay in a “ready to leave” mindset without even noticing it. You stop trusting your own taste If you were constantly corrected or mocked, you can start second-guessing everything. It’s not that you don’t care. It’s that choosing feels more stressful rather than fun. You may also not trust your choices. You’re focused on getting through the day When you’re recovering, you put your energy into functioning. Eating, sleeping, working, parenting, staying calm. Decorating can feel like something other people do and not something you have the luxury for. If you’re starting to want a home that feels warm and personal again, this can be a real sign you’re coming back to yourself. You were coping - you're not lazy and you're not behind. If this is you, what’s one small thing you’d like to do first? A candle, a photo, a plant, new bedding? #narcissisticabuse #traumahealing #narcissisticabuserecovery #healingfromnarcissisticabuse #healingfromtrauma