Karma & Diamonds

One thing a narcissist will often do in an argument is ask: “Okay, give me one example of when I did that.” In that moment, suddenly, your mind goes blank. You know their behaviour pattern. You know how it feels. You know it's happened countless times before. Yet, in that moment, you can’t think of one clear example. They'll say this is proof that you’re lying. That you imagined it. They'll say, therefore, what you claim never happened. Know that this is a tactic that's designed to take your power away from you. They drag you into a courtroom you never agreed to enter. They demand perfect details while triggering heightened emotion in you ... While your nervous system is in fight or flight mode. When this is happening, the part of your brain that retrieves memories doesn't work in the same way as it normally does. They know this, of course. By forcing you to produce one perfect example, they shift the focus away from the pattern and onto you. The second you hesitate, they use it as proof that you’re just exaggerating, being dramatic, insecure or unstable. Their question itself might be harmless enough, but harm is in their putting you on the spot. They pressure you to provide evidence while you’re overwhelmed, worn down and already doubting yourself, given their constant denial and invalidation of you. That’s why later, when you’re calm and your mind finally feels safe enough to access them, many examples come flooding back. If you struggle to recall details in the heat of an argument with someone who constantly denies your reality, don't assume that this must be a flaw in you. See it as good, useful information, because what this episode is doing is shining a light on how unsafe the dynamic between you and them really is. #narcissist #narcissism #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

Children expose narcissism without ever meaning to. The way someone behaves around a child often reveals what they work hard to hide from others. ㅤ 1️⃣ He competes with the child When the child receives praise, attention or warmth, he needs it too. ㅤ 2️⃣ He uses the child as leverage ㅤ He becomes affectionate only when it provokes a reaction from you. ㅤ 3️⃣ He expects admiration from the child He sulks or withdraws when the child doesn’t put him at the centre. ㅤ 4️⃣ He performs when others are watching The attentive, playful parent in public who is distant or absent at home. ㅤ 5️⃣ He feels threatened by your bond with your child He interrupts your moments of closeness with your chid or redirects attention back to himself. ㅤ 6️⃣ He shows up only for the fun parts He plays games or posts photos but avoids being emotionally available or giving genuine care. ㅤ 7️⃣ He blames the child for his moods He blames the child for “stressing him out” but the truth is that his anger existed long before the child was born. ㅤ 8️⃣ He treats the child as if they’re an extension of himself He praises achievements or behaviour that reflect well on him rather than praising the child’s for being who the child is inherently. ㅤ A narcissist acts through a child, not for them. Awareness is protection. When you see this clearly, you safeguard your child’s innocence that he's incapable of honouring. ㅤ If this resonates, you are not alone. You’re welcome to share your thoughts in the comments or follow to be here with us. ㅤ #narcissist #narcissism #parenting #toxicfamily #childhoodwounds #emotionalabuse #healingjourney #innerchild #boundaries #selfworth

In Vedanta and Yogic Philosophy, the deepest fulfilment doesn't come from filling an inner emptiness with success, relationships, possessions or recognition. ㅤ It comes from recognising that your true Self is never lacking. ㅤ The conditioned mind experiences emptiness as something to fear or escape. The Yogic sages saw it as THE key condition for experiencing higher states of Consciousness. ㅤ When we stop trying to fill every space with noise, distraction or achievement, we become available to something far greater. Something true and whole. ㅤ Like the hollow flute, it's our openness that allows life's deepest music to flow through us. What feels like emptiness may not be a sign that something is missing. Perhaps it's an invitation to recognise your true Self and align with it. ㅤ #Vedanta #SelfDiscovery #YogicPhilosophy #SmitaJoshi #KarmaAndDiamonds #Consciousness #Atman #SpiritualGrowth

Here are the 7 signs you have found your soulmate 💜 Which signs resonated with you the most? Let me know below! #relationships #love #dating #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

Read "he" and "him" as "she" and 'her", as it applied to you. ㅤ He sees her as something he owns, not as his partner. In his mind she's there to support his image, not to be understood or valued. People rarely talk about this … ㅤ 1️⃣ “She’ll never leave me” ㅤ He weakens her sense of self until she believes she can't manage without him. He chips away at her confidence until she feels small. ㅤ Reality: She can leave. The moment she chooses herself over his control is the moment his power disappears. ㅤ 2️⃣ “If she walks away I’ll pull her back” ㅤ He offers whatever sounds convincing in the moment. Therapy, change, affection, anything that keeps her close. None of this is about healing. It is about getting what his needs met by her. ㅤ Protect yourself: Believe behaviour patterns, not promises. Consistency of behaviour is what reveals truth. ㅤ 3️⃣ “She's there to keep me feeling superior” ㅤ He needs to keep her unsure and doubting herself so that he can feel certain and strong about himself. When she grows, he cuts her down. When she breaks, he feels in control. ㅤ Heal by remembering: You have never been "the problem". You're with someone who feels threatened by your strength. ㅤ 4️⃣ “No one will believe her” ㅤ He prepares his audience early. He labels her as insecure, unstable, or dramatic so that when she speaks, people immediately doubt her. ㅤ Protect your heart: You don't need to convince anyone who chooses his version of events. Truth reveals itself with time. ㅤ 5️⃣ “I’ll keep her off balance” ㅤ He shifts between cruelty and affection, guilt and comfort. The inconsistency keeps her hoping for the version of him that never stays. ㅤ The way out: Clarity. Write down what you experience. When you see it in your own words, the pattern becomes undeniably visible. ㅤ 6️⃣ “She still cares so I win” ㅤ He measures control by the emotion she evokes in him. Pain, confusion, affection- it all feeds his ego. ㅤ Heal by reclaiming your energy. You don't need to hate him. You only need to stop giving to him so he can misuse and abuse you further. ㅤ #marriage #narcissist #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

The 𝙆𝙖𝙩𝙝𝙖 𝙐𝙥𝙖𝙣𝙞𝙨𝙝𝙖𝙙, written over 2,500 years ago, offers one of the most practical insights into human behaviour. ㅤ It says that every moment presents us with two paths. ㅤ Ś𝙧𝙚𝙮𝙖𝙨 — the path that leads to our higher good. 𝙋𝙧𝙚𝙮𝙖𝙨 — the path that is immediately attractive, comfortable or gratifying. ㅤ The Upanishad says: "The good (śreyas) and the pleasant (preyas) approach a person. The wise examine both and distinguish between them. The wise choose the good over the pleasant, while the unwise choose the pleasant for the sake of acquisition and preservation.” — Katha Upanishad 1.2.1–2 ㅤ This isn't simply about choosing between right and wrong. ㅤ It's recognising that what feels good in the moment isn't always what serves our deepest growth. ㅤ Every day we face these choices. Having that difficult conversation ... or avoiding it. That healthy habit ... or the familiar comfort. Short-term gratification ... or long-term fulfilment. ㅤ Every choice shapes the person we become. ㅤ In the _Karma & Diamonds _trilogy, I share the often gruelling choices I've faced between what was immediately attractive and what I knew would lead to my higher good. ㅤ If you'd like to explore that journey more deeply, you'll find the trilogy and the accompanying guided meditations on Amazon or through my website. ㅤ Which path are you choosing more often? ㅤ What do you find a challenge to choose? ㅤ I'd love to hear your thoughts in the comments. ㅤ #SmitaJoshi #KarmaAndDiamonds #VedicPhilosophy #KathaUpanishad #Shreyas #Preyas #Upanishads #SelfDiscovery #Consciousness #InnerFreedom #PersonalGrowth #Wisdom

Narcissists don’t break when you confront them. ㅤ They break when they realise they’ve lost access to you, your energy, your attention, your willingness to keep explaining yourself. ㅤ And the most powerful part is, you never have to raise your voice. ㅤ Here are five things that will unravel their control: ㅤ 1. Your silence ㅤ You stop explaining, stop defending, stop reacting. ㅤ Why it works: They thrive on emotional reactions. Silence leaves them powerless. ㅤ 2. Your indifference ㅤ You no longer flinch when they try to trigger you. You’ve stopped caring in a way that depletes you and they know it. ㅤ Why it works: They want to be central to your world. Nothing feels more threatening than becoming irrelevant. ㅤ 3. Your glow-up ㅤ You start healing. You’re smiling again. You’re no longer stuck — and it has nothing to do with them. ㅤ Why it works: They hoped you’d stay broken. Watching you rise without them is a truth they can’t escape. ㅤ 4. Your boundaries ㅤ You say no without guilt. You leave without a speech. ㅤ Why it works: Boundaries remind them they never had as much power as they thought. ㅤ 5. Your peace ㅤ You don’t argue, you don’t retaliate — you simply move forward. ㅤ Why it works: They don’t know how to survive without chaos. Peace is the one thing they can’t control. ㅤ What you need to know is this: They don’t miss you, they miss the version of you they could control. ㅤ And when that version no longer exists, they’re left with the one thing they’ve spent their whole lives avoiding: themselves. ㅤ #smitajoshi #fyp #narcissisticabuse #narcissist #narcissisticabusesurvivor #emotionalhealing

The 𝗕𝗿𝗶𝗵𝗮𝗱𝗮𝗿𝗮𝗻𝘆𝗮𝗸𝗮 𝗨𝗽𝗮𝗻𝗶𝘀𝗵𝗮𝗱, written over 2,500 years ago, offers a profound insight into why we keep making the same mistakes. ㅤ It says: "As is your desire, so is your will. As is your will, so is your action. As is your action, so becomes your life.” ㅤ Most of us assume our decisions begin with conscious thought. The Upanishad suggests they begin much earlier. Beneath every repeated mistake is often an unconscious drive. A need to feel accepted. A fear of being rejected. ㅤ A belief that love must be earned. Or a familiar emotional experience that feels safe simply because it's familiar. ㅤ The problem is that we don't usually see these forces at work. ㅤ We simply experience the consequences. ㅤ The moment you become aware of what that unconscious drive is, it begins to lose its grip on you. ㅤ Awareness doesn't erase the past. It changes what becomes possible next. ㅤ Which blind spot has life been trying to show you? ㅤ I'd love to hear your thoughts in the comments. ㅤ #SmitaJoshi #KarmaAndDiamonds #VedicPhilosophy #BrihadaranyakaUpanishad #Upanishads #SelfDiscovery #Consciousness #BlindSpots #SelfAwareness #PersonalGrowth #InnerFreedom #SpiritualAwakening

This is not about judging anyone’s sexuality. Being gay is not the problem. The real pain begins when a woman gives her whole heart to a marriage, only to discover later that her partner was never capable of loving her in the way she needed or deserved. These signs are not to blame. They're here to help you recognise the patterns early and protect yourself from years of confusion and especially, self-doubt. 1️⃣ He avoids real intimacy He’s there in body you but never _with_ you. Physical closeness between you feels distant, mechanical, even. His body is there but his soul is somewhere else. You feel the rejection long before you ever understand it. 2️⃣ His emotional world belongs to other men, not you Friendships are healthy but when every emotional need is met elsewhere, you become invisible. You’re the partner in name but not in connection. 3️⃣ He shows no instinct to protect you when other men look at you Instead of caring for you or being present with you, he's indifferent to you. His detachment feels strange, almost hollow, like something vital is missing. 4️⃣ His attraction toward women feels rehearsed The compliments, affection, even intimacy can feel like performance. That's because he's not coming from desire but obligation … like he’s playing a role he never truly wanted. 5️⃣ He's distant with you No matter how much love you give him, he never fully lets you in. It’s like living with someone who keeps the door locked to his truth of who he is within. None of this makes him a bad person. It's just heartbreaking to pour your love, loyalty and years into a marriage in which you were never truly chosen. Recognising these signs early will bring you so much clarity. It helps you understand that you were never unworthy, but that the connection was never aligned to begin with. Have you experienced any of these signs? #marriage #marriageadvice #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

The Mahābhārata compares the wife to a flowing river and the husband to the steady banks... ㅤ It's a beautiful metaphor that offers a different way of understanding relationships. A river doesn't need to be stopped every time it rises. It needs strong banks that allow it to keep flowing without losing its direction. ㅤ In Vedic philosophy, Shakti - the Feminine Principle - is naturally expressive. Like a river, it moves, changes and responds to life. Emotions are not seen as something to suppress. They are something to understand. ㅤ The teaching isn't that one person should always stay calm while the other expresses emotion. It's that relationships become stronger when one person can remain grounded while the other is finding their way back to balance. ㅤ My life changed when I started questioning the beliefs I'd carried for years. ㅤ I became intentional about the philosophies I followed, the thoughts I repeated and the wisdom I chose to apply in my everyday life. ㅤ Now I want to share those reminders with you, rooted in ancient, timeless wisdom. ㅤ Read the 𝘒𝘢𝘳𝘮𝘢 & 𝘋𝘪𝘢𝘮𝘰𝘯𝘥𝘴 trilogy for more about creating a beautiful partnership with the one you love. ㅤ #vedicwisdom #masculineenergy #shakti #consciousrelationships #emotionalintelligence #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

For many people with narcissistic traits, protecting their image becomes more important than taking responsibility for their behaviour. That's why accountability can feel so threatening. When you begin to see the relationship clearly and stop accepting their version of events, the dynamic starts to change. Not because you've changed them, but because you've changed what you're willing to accept. ㅤ #narcissisticabuse #healingjourney #selfworth #boundaries #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

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