Karma & Diamonds

Narcissists don’t break when you confront them. ㅤ They break when they realise they’ve lost access to you, your energy, your attention, your willingness to keep explaining yourself. ㅤ And the most powerful part is, you never have to raise your voice. ㅤ Here are five things that will unravel their control: ㅤ 1. Your silence ㅤ You stop explaining, stop defending, stop reacting. ㅤ Why it works: They thrive on emotional reactions. Silence leaves them powerless. ㅤ 2. Your indifference ㅤ You no longer flinch when they try to trigger you. You’ve stopped caring in a way that depletes you and they know it. ㅤ Why it works: They want to be central to your world. Nothing feels more threatening than becoming irrelevant. ㅤ 3. Your glow-up ㅤ You start healing. You’re smiling again. You’re no longer stuck — and it has nothing to do with them. ㅤ Why it works: They hoped you’d stay broken. Watching you rise without them is a truth they can’t escape. ㅤ 4. Your boundaries ㅤ You say no without guilt. You leave without a speech. ㅤ Why it works: Boundaries remind them they never had as much power as they thought. ㅤ 5. Your peace ㅤ You don’t argue, you don’t retaliate — you simply move forward. ㅤ Why it works: They don’t know how to survive without chaos. Peace is the one thing they can’t control. ㅤ What you need to know is this: They don’t miss you, they miss the version of you they could control. ㅤ And when that version no longer exists, they’re left with the one thing they’ve spent their whole lives avoiding: themselves. ㅤ #smitajoshi #fyp #narcissisticabuse #narcissist #narcissisticabusesurvivor #emotionalhealing

The 𝗕𝗿𝗶𝗵𝗮𝗱𝗮𝗿𝗮𝗻𝘆𝗮𝗸𝗮 𝗨𝗽𝗮𝗻𝗶𝘀𝗵𝗮𝗱, written over 2,500 years ago, offers a profound insight into why we keep making the same mistakes. ㅤ It says: "As is your desire, so is your will. As is your will, so is your action. As is your action, so becomes your life.” ㅤ Most of us assume our decisions begin with conscious thought. The Upanishad suggests they begin much earlier. Beneath every repeated mistake is often an unconscious drive. A need to feel accepted. A fear of being rejected. ㅤ A belief that love must be earned. Or a familiar emotional experience that feels safe simply because it's familiar. ㅤ The problem is that we don't usually see these forces at work. ㅤ We simply experience the consequences. ㅤ The moment you become aware of what that unconscious drive is, it begins to lose its grip on you. ㅤ Awareness doesn't erase the past. It changes what becomes possible next. ㅤ Which blind spot has life been trying to show you? ㅤ I'd love to hear your thoughts in the comments. ㅤ #SmitaJoshi #KarmaAndDiamonds #VedicPhilosophy #BrihadaranyakaUpanishad #Upanishads #SelfDiscovery #Consciousness #BlindSpots #SelfAwareness #PersonalGrowth #InnerFreedom #SpiritualAwakening

This is not about judging anyone’s sexuality. Being gay is not the problem. The real pain begins when a woman gives her whole heart to a marriage, only to discover later that her partner was never capable of loving her in the way she needed or deserved. These signs are not to blame. They're here to help you recognise the patterns early and protect yourself from years of confusion and especially, self-doubt. 1️⃣ He avoids real intimacy He’s there in body you but never _with_ you. Physical closeness between you feels distant, mechanical, even. His body is there but his soul is somewhere else. You feel the rejection long before you ever understand it. 2️⃣ His emotional world belongs to other men, not you Friendships are healthy but when every emotional need is met elsewhere, you become invisible. You’re the partner in name but not in connection. 3️⃣ He shows no instinct to protect you when other men look at you Instead of caring for you or being present with you, he's indifferent to you. His detachment feels strange, almost hollow, like something vital is missing. 4️⃣ His attraction toward women feels rehearsed The compliments, affection, even intimacy can feel like performance. That's because he's not coming from desire but obligation … like he’s playing a role he never truly wanted. 5️⃣ He's distant with you No matter how much love you give him, he never fully lets you in. It’s like living with someone who keeps the door locked to his truth of who he is within. None of this makes him a bad person. It's just heartbreaking to pour your love, loyalty and years into a marriage in which you were never truly chosen. Recognising these signs early will bring you so much clarity. It helps you understand that you were never unworthy, but that the connection was never aligned to begin with. Have you experienced any of these signs? #marriage #marriageadvice #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

The Mahābhārata compares the wife to a flowing river and the husband to the steady banks... ㅤ It's a beautiful metaphor that offers a different way of understanding relationships. A river doesn't need to be stopped every time it rises. It needs strong banks that allow it to keep flowing without losing its direction. ㅤ In Vedic philosophy, Shakti - the Feminine Principle - is naturally expressive. Like a river, it moves, changes and responds to life. Emotions are not seen as something to suppress. They are something to understand. ㅤ The teaching isn't that one person should always stay calm while the other expresses emotion. It's that relationships become stronger when one person can remain grounded while the other is finding their way back to balance. ㅤ My life changed when I started questioning the beliefs I'd carried for years. ㅤ I became intentional about the philosophies I followed, the thoughts I repeated and the wisdom I chose to apply in my everyday life. ㅤ Now I want to share those reminders with you, rooted in ancient, timeless wisdom. ㅤ Read the 𝘒𝘢𝘳𝘮𝘢 & 𝘋𝘪𝘢𝘮𝘰𝘯𝘥𝘴 trilogy for more about creating a beautiful partnership with the one you love. ㅤ #vedicwisdom #masculineenergy #shakti #consciousrelationships #emotionalintelligence #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

For many people with narcissistic traits, protecting their image becomes more important than taking responsibility for their behaviour. That's why accountability can feel so threatening. When you begin to see the relationship clearly and stop accepting their version of events, the dynamic starts to change. Not because you've changed them, but because you've changed what you're willing to accept. ㅤ #narcissisticabuse #healingjourney #selfworth #boundaries #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

Let's test: Is your third eye open? 👁 #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds #smitajoshimeditations #thirdeye #spiritualtiktok #telepathytest

Here’s why it happens: You get used to not having preferences When you were with someone who criticised you, dismissed you or accused you of being “too much,” it was easier not to choose. Over time, you learn to keep things neutral so no one can judge you. It can feel safer not to get attached Some people avoid decorating because it feels like settling in. If you’ve lived with life changes happening suddenly, you might stay in a “ready to leave” mindset without even noticing it. You stop trusting your own taste If you were constantly corrected or mocked, you can start second-guessing everything. It’s not that you don’t care. It’s that choosing feels more stressful rather than fun. You may also not trust your choices. You’re focused on getting through the day When you’re recovering, you put your energy into functioning. Eating, sleeping, working, parenting, staying calm. Decorating can feel like something other people do and not something you have the luxury for. If you’re starting to want a home that feels warm and personal again, this can be a real sign you’re coming back to yourself. You were coping - you're not lazy and you're not behind. If this is you, what’s one small thing you’d like to do first? A candle, a photo, a plant, new bedding? #narcissisticabuse #traumahealing #narcissisticabuserecovery #healingfromnarcissisticabuse #healingfromtrauma

Most people think karma is about reward and punishment. ㅤ Vedānta offers a deeper understanding. ㅤ Karma isn't simply about what happens to you. It's also about how you respond to what happens. ㅤ Life has a remarkable way of presenting similar people, situations and patterns until we become conscious enough to make a different choice. ㅤ The faces may change. The circumstances may change. The invitation remains the same. ㅤ Every moment offers the possibility to strengthen an old pattern... or dissolve it. ㅤ Perhaps karma isn't here to trap you in your past. ㅤ Perhaps it's inviting you to awaken beyond it. ㅤ Have you ever noticed the same lesson appearing in different forms until you finally responded differently? ㅤ If this resonates, you might just love my books, the 𝘒𝘢𝘳𝘮𝘢 & 𝘋𝘪𝘢𝘮𝘰𝘯𝘥𝘴 trilogy. Available on Amazon and at smitajoshi.com. ㅤ #karma #lifelessons #selfgrowth #spiritualgrowth #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds #vedanta

Cleanliness is next to Godliness, they say. And I live by that. That said, constantly needing to clean, tidy or declutter is not always about liking order. For many, it's a survival response borne of trauma and pain. ㅤ 1️⃣ Control in the midst of chaos. ㅤ Growing up in an unstable or abusive home, the only thing you could control was your environment. Cleaning became your way to create safety. ㅤ 2️⃣ Coping with anxiety. ㅤ When emotions feel overwhelming, scrubbing or organising becomes the outlet. The spotless room is not just clean, it is your nervous system trying to calm itself. ㅤ 3️⃣ Fear of judgement. ㅤ If you were constantly criticised as a child for mistakes, keeping everything perfect became a way to avoid shame. ㅤ 4️⃣ Numbing pain through productivity. ㅤ During heartbreak or abuse, the house sparkles. It may even be part of how you bring order within yourself or ... because it is easier to mop the floor than to face the ache in your chest. ㅤ 5️⃣ Decluttering as reclaiming power. ㅤ After trauma, getting rid of belongings can feel like shedding layers of the past that suffocated you. ㅤ If you find yourself obsessively cleaning or decluttering, ask yourself if it is just about the mess itself. Is it your trauma speaking through action? Either way, there's nothing wrong. Reaching for safety and healing is learning to find that safety from within yourself. ㅤ #smitajoshi #healingjourney #childhoodtrauma #narcissisticabuse #traumarecovery #selfworth #anxiety

Narcissists DON’T even love themselves? 👀 #narcissists #narcissist #narc #toxicrelationships #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

When it comes to narcissists, all they care about is protecting their ego and making sure they are NEVER the one in the wrong. Instead of accepting how their actions have made you react, they focus on your reaction and make you the villain. Has this ever happened to you? 👀 #narcissism #relationshipadvice #dating #gaslighting #manipulation #accountability #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

In Vedic philosophy, 𝗦𝗵𝗮𝗸𝘁𝗶 is the infinite creative power that gives rise to, sustains and transforms the universe. That same Shakti flows through every one of us. ㅤ It's not measured by how loudly we speak, how much attention we receive or how hard we fight to be seen. ㅤ Real Shakti reveals itself as quiet confidence. ㅤ Steady presence. Self-respect. Compassion. Courage. Wisdom. ㅤ It's the strength to remain rooted in who you truly are, regardless of what others think. ㅤ When you know your worth, you stop seeking validation. ㅤ You stop chasing approval. ㅤ You stop explaining your value. ㅤ You simply live it. ㅤ If this resonates, you might just love my books, the 𝗞𝗮𝗿𝗺𝗮 & 𝗗𝗶𝗮𝗺𝗼𝗻𝗱𝘀 trilogy. On Amazon and smitajoshi.com. ㅤ #shakti #vedicwisdom #selfworth #divinefeminine #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds #divinefeminine