Karma & Diamonds

You don’t need another apology or explanation. The truth is in what they chose to keep doing, even after they saw (while pretending not to) it was breaking you ... and relished in it. ㅤ Closure is simply realising this ... and walking away anyway. ㅤ Do you agree? ㅤ #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds #psychology #emotionalintelligence #narcissist #narcissism #relationships #breakups #trauma #closure

One thing a narcissist will often do in an argument is ask: “Okay, give me one example of when I did that.” In that moment, suddenly, your mind goes blank. You know their behaviour pattern. You know how it feels. You know it's happened countless times before. Yet, in that moment, you can’t think of one clear example. They'll say this is proof that you’re lying. That you imagined it. They'll say, therefore, what you claim never happened. Know that this is a tactic that's designed to take your power away from you. They drag you into a courtroom you never agreed to enter. They demand perfect details while triggering heightened emotion in you ... While your nervous system is in fight or flight mode. When this is happening, the part of your brain that retrieves memories doesn't work in the same way as it normally does. They know this, of course. By forcing you to produce one perfect example, they shift the focus away from the pattern and onto you. The second you hesitate, they use it as proof that you’re just exaggerating, being dramatic, insecure or unstable. Their question itself might be harmless enough, but harm is in their putting you on the spot. They pressure you to provide evidence while you’re overwhelmed, worn down and already doubting yourself, given their constant denial and invalidation of you. That’s why later, when you’re calm and your mind finally feels safe enough to access them, many examples come flooding back. If you struggle to recall details in the heat of an argument with someone who constantly denies your reality, don't assume that this must be a flaw in you. See it as good, useful information, because what this episode is doing is shining a light on how unsafe the dynamic between you and them really is. #narcissist #narcissism #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

This is not about judging anyone’s sexuality. Being gay is not the problem. The real pain begins when a woman gives her whole heart to a marriage, only to discover later that her partner was never capable of loving her in the way she needed or deserved. These signs are not to blame. They're here to help you recognise the patterns early and protect yourself from years of confusion and especially, self-doubt. 1️⃣ He avoids real intimacy He’s there in body you but never _with_ you. Physical closeness between you feels distant, mechanical, even. His body is there but his soul is somewhere else. You feel the rejection long before you ever understand it. 2️⃣ His emotional world belongs to other men, not you Friendships are healthy but when every emotional need is met elsewhere, you become invisible. You’re the partner in name but not in connection. 3️⃣ He shows no instinct to protect you when other men look at you Instead of caring for you or being present with you, he's indifferent to you. His detachment feels strange, almost hollow, like something vital is missing. 4️⃣ His attraction toward women feels rehearsed The compliments, affection, even intimacy can feel like performance. That's because he's not coming from desire but obligation … like he’s playing a role he never truly wanted. 5️⃣ He's distant with you No matter how much love you give him, he never fully lets you in. It’s like living with someone who keeps the door locked to his truth of who he is within. None of this makes him a bad person. It's just heartbreaking to pour your love, loyalty and years into a marriage in which you were never truly chosen. Recognising these signs early will bring you so much clarity. It helps you understand that you were never unworthy, but that the connection was never aligned to begin with. Have you experienced any of these signs? #marriage #marriageadvice #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

Loneliness leaves you searching for someone to fill the emptiness. It makes you feel like something is wrong. Loneliness feels like something to escape. ㅤ Solitude creates the space you need to discover the deeper connection that's hidden within the emptiness. ㅤ When you stop resisting that feeling of emptiness and simply be with it, it becomes solitude … a time to cherish being with your own self. ㅤ Solitude unleashes your creativity and inner strength. Solitude brings clarity. ㅤ Solitude helps you see your own needs and listen to the deeper Intelligence within. Solitude opens the door to the deepest connection with your own true Self. ㅤ #Solitude #Loneliness #SelfDiscovery #InnerStrength #Consciousness #SmitaJoshi #KarmaAndDiamonds

Narcissists don’t break when you confront them. ㅤ They break when they realise they’ve lost access to you, your energy, your attention, your willingness to keep explaining yourself. ㅤ And the most powerful part is, you never have to raise your voice. ㅤ Here are five things that will unravel their control: ㅤ 1. Your silence ㅤ You stop explaining, stop defending, stop reacting. ㅤ Why it works: They thrive on emotional reactions. Silence leaves them powerless. ㅤ 2. Your indifference ㅤ You no longer flinch when they try to trigger you. You’ve stopped caring in a way that depletes you and they know it. ㅤ Why it works: They want to be central to your world. Nothing feels more threatening than becoming irrelevant. ㅤ 3. Your glow-up ㅤ You start healing. You’re smiling again. You’re no longer stuck — and it has nothing to do with them. ㅤ Why it works: They hoped you’d stay broken. Watching you rise without them is a truth they can’t escape. ㅤ 4. Your boundaries ㅤ You say no without guilt. You leave without a speech. ㅤ Why it works: Boundaries remind them they never had as much power as they thought. ㅤ 5. Your peace ㅤ You don’t argue, you don’t retaliate — you simply move forward. ㅤ Why it works: They don’t know how to survive without chaos. Peace is the one thing they can’t control. ㅤ What you need to know is this: They don’t miss you, they miss the version of you they could control. ㅤ And when that version no longer exists, they’re left with the one thing they’ve spent their whole lives avoiding: themselves. ㅤ #smitajoshi #fyp #narcissisticabuse #narcissist #narcissisticabusesurvivor #emotionalhealing

Let's test: Is your third eye open? 👁 #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds #smitajoshimeditations #thirdeye #spiritualtiktok #telepathytest

The 𝗜𝘀𝗵𝗮 𝗨𝗽𝗮𝗻𝗶𝘀𝗵𝗮𝗱, written over 2,500 years ago, offers a profound insight into why we compare ourselves to other people. ㅤ Comparison begins the moment we believe someone else has something we need in order to feel complete. ㅤ More success. More beauty. More money. More recognition. ㅤ The Isha Upanishad points in a different direction. ㅤ No one can be a better version of you than you. Because no one else can ever be your UNIQUE Self. ㅤ The moment you recognise that, comparison begins to lose its grip. ㅤ Because you've remembered what has always been uniquely yours. ㅤ What helps you come back to your own Self when comparison creeps in? I'd love to hear your thoughts in the comments. ㅤ #SmitaJoshi #KarmaAndDiamonds #VedicPhilosophy #IshaUpanishad #Upanishads #SelfDiscovery #SelfWorth #Consciousness #InnerFreedom #PersonalGrowth #Comparison #SpiritualAwakening

Here’s why it happens: You get used to not having preferences When you were with someone who criticised you, dismissed you or accused you of being “too much,” it was easier not to choose. Over time, you learn to keep things neutral so no one can judge you. It can feel safer not to get attached Some people avoid decorating because it feels like settling in. If you’ve lived with life changes happening suddenly, you might stay in a “ready to leave” mindset without even noticing it. You stop trusting your own taste If you were constantly corrected or mocked, you can start second-guessing everything. It’s not that you don’t care. It’s that choosing feels more stressful rather than fun. You may also not trust your choices. You’re focused on getting through the day When you’re recovering, you put your energy into functioning. Eating, sleeping, working, parenting, staying calm. Decorating can feel like something other people do and not something you have the luxury for. If you’re starting to want a home that feels warm and personal again, this can be a real sign you’re coming back to yourself. You were coping - you're not lazy and you're not behind. If this is you, what’s one small thing you’d like to do first? A candle, a photo, a plant, new bedding? #narcissisticabuse #traumahealing #narcissisticabuserecovery #healingfromnarcissisticabuse #healingfromtrauma

Cleanliness is next to Godliness, they say. And I live by that. That said, constantly needing to clean, tidy or declutter is not always about liking order. For many, it's a survival response borne of trauma and pain. ㅤ 1️⃣ Control in the midst of chaos. ㅤ Growing up in an unstable or abusive home, the only thing you could control was your environment. Cleaning became your way to create safety. ㅤ 2️⃣ Coping with anxiety. ㅤ When emotions feel overwhelming, scrubbing or organising becomes the outlet. The spotless room is not just clean, it is your nervous system trying to calm itself. ㅤ 3️⃣ Fear of judgement. ㅤ If you were constantly criticised as a child for mistakes, keeping everything perfect became a way to avoid shame. ㅤ 4️⃣ Numbing pain through productivity. ㅤ During heartbreak or abuse, the house sparkles. It may even be part of how you bring order within yourself or ... because it is easier to mop the floor than to face the ache in your chest. ㅤ 5️⃣ Decluttering as reclaiming power. ㅤ After trauma, getting rid of belongings can feel like shedding layers of the past that suffocated you. ㅤ If you find yourself obsessively cleaning or decluttering, ask yourself if it is just about the mess itself. Is it your trauma speaking through action? Either way, there's nothing wrong. Reaching for safety and healing is learning to find that safety from within yourself. ㅤ #smitajoshi #healingjourney #childhoodtrauma #narcissisticabuse #traumarecovery #selfworth #anxiety

This is the strangest feeling … but perhaps also sometimes comforting? Let me know if you've ever experienced this in the comments! 🤍 #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds #smitajoshimeditations #journeyofselfdiscovery #inspirationalquotes #healingjourney #soultie #soulconnection #relationships

The 𝗕𝗿𝗶𝗵𝗮𝗱𝗮𝗿𝗮𝗻𝘆𝗮𝗸𝗮 𝗨𝗽𝗮𝗻𝗶𝘀𝗵𝗮𝗱, written over 2,500 years ago, offers a profound insight into the nature of desire. ㅤ It suggests that every desire begins with the feeling that something is missing within us. So we search. For success. For love. For recognition. For wealth. For the next achievement. We believe that when we finally have what we're searching for, we'll feel complete. ㅤ Sometimes we do. But only for a while. ㅤ Then another desire appears. ㅤ 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗨𝗽𝗮𝗻𝗶𝘀𝗵𝗮𝗱 𝗮𝘀𝗸𝘀 𝘂𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗶𝗱𝗲𝗿 𝗮 𝗱𝗶𝗳𝗳𝗲𝗿𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗽𝗼𝘀𝘀𝗶𝗯𝗶𝗹𝗶𝘁𝘆. Success matters. Success can transform your life. ㅤ Perhaps it's one of the many vehicles through which you're searching for your deeper Self. Use it. 𝘿𝙤𝙣'𝙩 𝙡𝙚𝙩 𝙞𝙩 𝙪𝙨𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪. ㅤ What - or Who - are you really searching for? ㅤ I'd love to hear your thoughts in the comments. ㅤ #SmitaJoshi #KarmaAndDiamonds #VedicPhilosophy #BrihadaranyakaUpanishad #Upanishads #SelfDiscovery #Success #Purpose #Consciousness #InnerFreedom #PersonalGrowth #SpiritualAwakening

One minute they’re shattered - can't sleep, can't eat, questioning everything - and the next minute they're acting like nothing happened. Here are the 7 things narcissists do after a breakup that healthy people don't.👇🏼 ㅤ 1️⃣ They replace you immediately because they can't be alone by themselves. Healthy people stay with the pain and feel it fully. Narcissists run from it. ㅤ 2️⃣ They act like it meant nothing. No grief, no processing - because it was never really love to them, it was control. And losing you means losing control. ㅤ 3️⃣ They rewrite the story so you become the problem. Suddenly you are "crazy," "too much," "unstable." Healthy people take accountability for their part in the relationship dynamic. Narcissists just change the script to suit their needs. ㅤ 4️⃣ They show off a new partner online but it's all fake - they only do it to hurt and confuse you, so that you will doubt yourself. ㅤ 5️⃣ They watch you from a distance i.e. checking your stories, asking mutual friends about you, hovering without ever actually reaching out. They don't miss you … they miss the energy they took from you. ㅤ 6️⃣ They randomly reach out with a soft message, a memory, a "thinking of you" out of nowhere. That's bait. ㅤ 7️⃣ They never fully leave, keeping one foot wedged in the door. A healthy person lets go. A narcissist always returns. ㅤ If you're still feeling pulled towards someone who's hurt you, that's a trauma bond - not to be confused with weakness. And trauma bonds are common than you might think. ㅤ Does this sound like you? Tell me in the comments 💌 ㅤ #narcissist #traumabond #karmaanddiamonds #smitajoshi