Karma & Diamonds

I respect everyone’s sexuality. Fully. Still, when someone marries a person they aren’t actually attracted to, often because they’re confused or trying to “do the right thing,” it can slowly become a painful place for the spouse. This is because he is not really there. (If you’re a man and this resonates with your experience, please replace “he” with “she”. Here are some quiet signs many women feel but struggle to put into words: 1️⃣ Kind, respectful, still emotionally absent He does the “right” things. He’s polite and helpful. Still, he doesn’t meet her emotionally. 2️⃣ She carries the relationship She plans, decides, initiates and holds the emotional load. Over time, she stops feeling like a partner and starts feeling like the one running everything. 3️⃣ Intimacy feels disconnected Though there’s touch and affection in the relationship, desire is missing. She starts to sense that he chose her for stability or image - not because he truly wants *her*. That can slowly erode her confidence. 4️⃣ He can’t stay steady when she’s upset When she’s anxious, he mirrors her anxiety. When she’s overwhelmed, he shuts down. She doesn’t feel supported and feels like she has to manage both him as well as herself. 5️⃣ He avoids hard conversations Tension makes him retreat. She learns that saying how she feels creates distance so she stops speaking about her feelings. 6️⃣ She feels lonely beside him Nothing looks “wrong” on the surface. Still, something essential is missing and she knows it. If this resonated, you’re not alone. Share in the comments or follow for more insights.

Boundaries are so powerful. Teach others how to respect you by respecting yourself first 🤍⁠ ㅤ What’s one boundary you’ve set that’s made a difference in your life? ㅤ #boundaries #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

Constantly needing to clean, tidy or declutter is not always about liking order. For many of us, it’s a survival response borne of pain. ㅤ 1️⃣ Control in the midst of chaos. ㅤ Growing up in an unstable or abusive home, the only thing you could control was your environment. Cleaning became your way to create safety. ㅤ 2️⃣ Coping with anxiety. ㅤ When emotions feel overwhelming, scrubbing or organising becomes the outlet. The spotless room is not just clean, it is your nervous system trying to calm itself. ㅤ 3️⃣ Fear of judgement. ㅤ If you were criticised as a child for mistakes, keeping everything perfect became a way to avoid shame. ㅤ 4️⃣ Numbing pain through productivity. ㅤ During heartbreak or abuse, the house sparkles because it’s easier to mop the floor than to face the ache in your chest. ㅤ 5️⃣ Decluttering as reclaiming power. ㅤ After trauma, getting rid of belongings can feel like shedding layers of the past that suffocated you. ㅤ If you find yourself obsessively cleaning or decluttering, ask yourself if this is just about the mess itself. Is it your trauma speaking through action? Either way, you are not broken. Searching for safety and healing is learning to find that safety within yourself. ㅤ #smitajoshi #healingjourney #childhoodtrauma #narcissisticabuse #traumarecovery #selfworth #anxiety

Have you ever been with a narcissist? Share your experience in the comments. ㅤ #narcissist #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

When his ego starts craving excitement more than loyalty, he forgets the people who loved him first. 1️⃣ His ex-wife’s humanity Example: He speaks about her like she is a nuisance from his past instead of a real person who shared years of his life. How to heal: His version of you does not define you. Your truth still matters. 2️⃣ The mother of his children Example: He talks about her with disrespect, as if she did not carry and raise his family. How to heal: You deserve to be honoured for what you gave and endured. Find ways to honour yourself. 3️⃣ His children’s feelings Example: He assumes the kids will just adjust to less time, less attention and a new reality. How to heal: Keep reminding them they are still worthy of love, stability and his presence in their lives. 4️⃣ The years she supported him Example: He forgets the sacrifices, the patience, the late nights and the ways she held everything together. How to heal: Don’t minimise what you’ve built. It has value even if he refuses to acknowledge it. 5️⃣ Shared memories Example: He rewrites the past to justify his decisions. How to heal: You’re allowed to treasure the good moments. 6️⃣ His responsibility Example: He chases a fresh start while turning a blind eye to the harm he caused. How to heal: What he refuses to face - his shadow - follows him everywhere. Nothing for you to do about this. 7️⃣ Her worth Example: He uses someone new to feel powerful again while the message you hear is: “You are replaceable.” How to heal: You are not dispensable. His choices reflect his character, not your worth. #divorcehealing #cheating #betrayal #coparenting #toxicrelationships #narcissist #narcissism #healingjourney #selfworth #boundaries

A narcissist never truly sees the woman in front of him. He only notices the parts of her that feed his ego. This is how the damage happens quietly and over time. ㅤ 1️⃣ He treats your love as fuel not connection ㅤ When you give affection he doesn’t feel bonded or closer to you. He feels boosted. He feels powerful. Your warmth becomes something he believes he deserves rather than something to be cherished. ㅤ 2️⃣ He mistakes loyalty for weakness ㅤ The more committed you are to him and the relationship, the more secure he feels that you’ll stay no matter what. Instead of appreciating your loyalty, he tests it by crossing lines and watching how much you will tolerate. ㅤ 3️⃣ He uses your pain as reassurance of his ability to control ㅤ When you cry or withdraw he doesn’t feel remorse. He feels validated. Your reaction tells him that he still has power over you. ㅤ 4️⃣ He drains your kindness without noticing the cost ㅤ Your empathy becomes something he leans on to regulate himself and avoid accountability. He takes your empathy freely without appreciating how he’s draining you. ㅤ 5️⃣ He only recognises your strength when you pull away ㅤ That’s when fear appears. He never respected your strength while it served him. He only notices it once it threatens his comfort. ㅤ 6️⃣ He never truly sees you ㅤ He sees what he needs reflected back at him. Not the woman who worked so hard, cared or carried the emotional weight of the relationship. ㅤ The moment you understand that you were never the problem is the moment your power returns. You never were asking for too much. You were simply asking the wrong person. ㅤ #narcissist #narcissism #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds

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Narcissists don’t break when you confront them. ㅤ They break when they realise they no longer have you, your energy, your attention, your willingness to keep explaining yourself. ㅤ And the most powerful part is, you never have to raise your voice. ㅤ Here are five things that quietly unravel their control: ㅤ 1. Your silence You stop explaining, defending and reacting. ㅤ Why it works: They thrive on emotional reactions. Silence leaves them powerless. ㅤ 2. Your indifference You no longer flinch when they try to trigger you. You’ve stopped caring and they know it. ㅤ Why it works: They want to be central to your world. Nothing feels more threatening than becoming irrelevant. ㅤ 3. Your glow-up You start healing. You’re smiling again. You’re no longer stuck — and it has nothing to do with them. ㅤ Why it works: They hoped you’d stay dysfunctional. Watching you rise without them is a truth they can’t escape—and something that really bothers them. ㅤ 4. Your boundaries You say no without guilt. You leave without a speech. ㅤ Why it works: Boundaries remind them they never had as much power as they thought. ㅤ 5. Your peace You don’t argue, you don’t retaliate — you simply move forward. ㅤ Why it works: They don’t know how to survive without chaos. You choosing to be peaceful is the one thing they can’t control. ㅤ They don’t miss you but the version of you that was easy to manipulate. ㅤ And when that version no longer exists, they’re left with the one thing they’ve spent their whole lives avoiding: themselves. ㅤ #smitajoshi #fyp #narcissisticabuse #narcissist #narcissisticabusesurvivor #emotionalhealing

This is the strangest feeling … but could it be that it’s also comforting? ㅤ Let me know in the comments if you've ever experienced this! 🤍 ㅤ #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds #smitajoshimeditations #journeyofselfdiscovery #inspirationalquotes #healingjourney #soultie #soulconnection #relationships ㅤ Top: @guess

It’s time to be kind to yourself. ❤️‍🩹 ㅤ Send this to someone who may need the reminder today! ㅤ #inspiration #selflove #healingjourney #healing #selfforgiveness

Narcissists rarely feel real pain, but they do feel wounded when their control over you weakens. Here are six ways to strike back with power they can’t steal: ㅤ 1. Stop defending yourself ㅤ They thrive on your attempts to explain. When you’re silent and firm, you deny them the reaction they crave. ㅤ 2. Heal so they can’t reach the person they broke ㅤ They want you trapped in the version of you that begged and cried. By protecting your peace and going no contact, you become untouchable. ㅤ 3. Laugh and live joyfully ㅤ Nothing unsettles them more than seeing you happy without their approval. Your genuine smile is proof they no longer hold your heart. ㅤ 4. Speak your truth ㅤ They survive on their own version of events. When you share what really happened, you expose their lies and let others see who they are. ㅤ 5. Refuse their bait ㅤ They’ll reach out just to provoke a reaction. Ignoring those messages robs them of significance and reminds them they’re no longer the centre of your world. ㅤ 6. Build a life they can’t disturb ㅤ Their greatest fear is fading into irrelevance. By thriving, growing and moving forward, you deliver the deepest cut—your undeniable success. ㅤ You don’t need revenge. Becoming the person they never believed you could be is the ultimate triumph. ㅤ #narcissist #narcissism #narcissisticabusesurvivor #smitajoshi

Make peace one of your top core values and guard your inner peace zealously. 🤍 ㅤ #selfrespect #smitajoshi #karmaanddiamonds